For those of you who had terrible teen years?

Question

did you find college was better for you? I'm 16 and it's a shame to say that i feel like the world is out to get me. nothing, i mean nothing has gone right. i'm not living the typical teenager life. my friend kasey ruined my friendship with my best friend since kindergarten maria. she felt threatened that me and maria were closer so she decided to hold maria hostage in her house and wouldn't allow me to come over. mature, right?

now i have one friend who is too into her studies to ever hang out. this girl kasey is on top, as always, with all the friends in the world enjoying life while i sit home.

i'm eager to go to college.. i have one more year left of dealing with immature girls. i'll be 17 in october and i'm the youngest of the grade yet i feel more mature than everyone else. i would never deliberately go out of my way to hurt someone. i don't understand why every teenage girl is so cruel. i never caused problems and i went with the flow of things. i don't deserve this because i always treat people with respect.

why am i loosing hope? my mother feels so bad for me that i had terrible teen years, one bad friendship after the other. i feel like i'm letting her down because she only wants me to be happy and she knows i am by no means happy.

i feel like such a dissappointment because it's not even like i have outstanding grades. i have As and Bs and now a days colleges are so competetive. not to mention, i failed my SATs. i can't even be proud of nothing in my life. i let my parents down and most importantly myself.

Answer 1

I had similar problems when I was in high school.  I skipped grades so I was always the youngest in my class.  Teenage girls can be brutal!  It sounds like the Kasey girl is VERY threatened by you, she is going out of her way to ruin your day.  The best advice I can give you is, ignore her.  Act as if she doesn't exist.  Don't let her see that her 'friend-napping' is bothering you.  Trust me, 10 years from now you will be out of college, and successful.  You just might run into Miss Kasey and get to meet her 6 kids, with 5 different dads - all of whom are in prison.  Heh.  That might be a bit of an exaggeration, but it doesn't hurt to dream and that thought could make you giggle through a tough day!  ;o)  Good luck, and these are NOT the best days of your life... Just wait for college!  :oD

Answer 2

If you think your life is bad now just wait until you're an adult.

Answer 3

You'll meet some immature people throughout your life. BUT yes, it's better in college, because you have more control over your life as a college student. You'll meet more people who share your interests, and that's a great beginning for new friendships.

The mean girl population is much lower in college, basically because fewer people will put up with their c**p; their best years are usually behind them the day they graduate high school. You're a teenage girl and you're not cruel. You are not the only one, no matter what it looks like to you now.

I am not sure how someone can fail the SATs, but the test has probably changed. I took them 37 years ago. One thing that has not changed is that there are review books and even courses. Prepare for the test like crazy and take it again.

Actually, at this stage of your life, letting your parents down is worse than letting yourself down, especially since you seem to expect so little of yourself in the first place. One thing that you will learn as you mature is that other people don't ruin our lives. We can let them be an excuse for doing nothing to better our own lives, or we can ignore them and get busy preparing for adulthood and the job market.

Become a hermit if need be, and get into college, even if it's a community college. Don't take any educational opportunity for granted; if you get into a school you think is inferior, don't whine about it. Work your tail off. College is 99% what you make of it. You're there to learn.

Answer 4

don't get too down on yourself. you had the dignity to seek help didn't you? there are highs and lows in every ones life, some just experience extreme lows before others. you have to find out what you are good at in life and run with it. don't ever let opportunities to better yourself pass you by.

Answer 5

Go back being friends with Maria. Ignore the immature girls. Make new friends. ITS OKAY TO BE GEEK. Geeks make the money. Only one more year is no big deal. STUDY HARD!

Answer 6

hunny its okayy!

personally i havent been to college yet cuz im too young lol but god made you the way you are for a reason and same with yur life, he made it like dat for a reason!

remember suicide is never ever ever ever ever ever the answer!

and yes yur teen years do kinda sux, but hey, you might grow up and be super rich, or be totally gorgeous, or just be happy with yourself and your life!

i noe its hard, but you have to make the best of life. ditch kasey, i mean just dont even talk to her, face it. SHES A MEAN IMMATURE B*TCH! [like you said!] and in the future she will regret all of the mean things she did to you and other gurlz. cuz you arent alone, SOMEBODY else in the world is going through something similar to wat you are going through rite now. and if maria really wants to be friends with you, she will find a way. i recomend going to the school counselor and getting maria called in and maybe kasey and just tell them it ALL. it might get you teased, but dats better than sitting hear hopelessly wondering, ya digg?? and if maria does not want to be friends with you, dont make her. you can make new friends, just walk around. smile, be nice to people, stand up straight, look yur prettiest [i said PRETTIEST not SLUTTIEST!] lolz but 4 realz and just be yurself! dis may cause kasey to be even meaner, but dat just means shes jealous! remember, be strong! you are a beautiful, strong, wonderful person! life will get better, the teen years dont last forever! well you noe wat i mean, peace! :D

Answer 7

emoooooooooooooooooooooo

Answer 8

I think that teenage girls bring too much drama to the table don't worry about those bad friendships that is just how most teenage girls act.  Life does get much better after high school!  I promise.  I am in my 30s and was miserable as a teen myself.  I HATED high school but I am glad I made it through.  Keep your chin up.  Life does get better.  And as for college just try the best you can and sometimes colleges will let you in under a probationary period.

Answer 9

high school can be depressing but college is better you find more people who seem to have the same interests as you.. as for your SATs i read studying for the SAT for dummies and did pretty decent... look for as many scholarships as possible though because college is expensive

Answer 10

You are not a disappointment! Don't even think that way. From reading your letter, I can tell you are an intelligent, thoughtful person who is mature beyond your age. And yes, college is much nicer. In fact, I hated high school but loved college. Your parents love you and are proud of you. You have not let anyone down. And your life is just beginning! You will like college because you are treated like an adult there. There might be some childish girls there, but you can avoid them. Most people there really want to learn and achieve. Good luck to you! If you were my child, I would be so proud of you!

Answer 11

I think for most teenagers, or from my personal experience at least. Being a teenager was like my prime suffering years. Nothing was ever perfect, and that really doesnt ever change, life is hard, and it was intended for us to be hard. My advice is to pray about it. Give it to god and he'll take care of it.