For those of you who have or had SUPER DUPER KINKY CURLY HAIR, did you feel guilty after relaxing them?

Question

I can feel the joy that my hair has when they curl so tightly around one another (explaining this is beyond what I can describe) but it only makes me feel unhappy because of it being so untameable/unmanageable. I strongly feel that I'll feel an overwhelming amount of guilt if I relax them. Not guilty for me but guilty for them because I can feel their joy though they care not about my displeasure. Please don't ask me to explain. The only thing I can say is that when you are in tuned with The Creator of all things, you become attuned with every living thing around you. So did you feel joyful after relaxing your hair? I want to relax my hair so bad but I know they wouldn't want me to do it.

Answer 1

wowwwwwww     that is scary

Answer 2

Every curly haired woman experiences this to some degree. Some accept it for what it is and others find other ways around it like texturizing. Texturizing is basically a low-grade perm. People leave it on their hair for a very short amount of time so it does not completely straighten their hair. The end result are curls that are easier to manage while still keeping their curls; basically, they are loosening their curl pattern. If you do this then you will no longer be natural because you are chemically treating your hair. Plus, you'll have to get a touch ups to keep it like that. Before you decide on anything, get the opinions of other naturals.