For those of you who used the cry it out method. please help?

Question

How long did your baby cry and how many nights did it take?

My baby is 8 months old.she has always gone to bed awake so thats not a problem the only thing is she wakes up around 4:30 and will cry for up to 1 1/2. She has a very large meal( a whole jar of fruit and a lrg bowl of Pablum) before bed so i dont think she is hungry. sometimes i give in and give her a small bottle of water although i just give it to her i dont pick her up

Answer 1

I used the "cry it out" method with my son, but not until he was two.  I'm not sure that at 8 months, cry it out is really effective.  Your child is still SO young and has no language.  How can you be sure something isn't wrong?  I'd give it another year, and then try again.  

Answer 2

try changing her feeding routine, try giving her food earlier and maybe a small bottle an hour before bed,

goodluck

Answer 3

Your baby is crying because she is hungry, not just to annoy you. Be a mother and feed her, stop looking for the  lazy way out of it. You are a parent day and night.

Answer 4

How soon before bed are you feeding her? That much food at one time, and then being put straight to bed may cause a tummy ache or gas that comes late at night. I feed my son at 5-5:30 and he has a bottle at 6:30 "2-4 Oz's of formula" and then he is off to bed at 7. And sleeps till 6-6:30 the next morning and then is usually ready for a 4 oz bottle , and goes till 8 before eating breakfast. As for the crying it out method you have to do just that. Let her cry it out "with intervales every 10-15 minutes, but don't pick her up just assure her she is safe". It could take hours if she is a stubborn one, but she is at an age where night time feeding shouldn't exist any more.. Best of Luck..

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with the "Cry it out" method.  But you need to be sure that you're baby isn't crying for other reasons.  She isn't up, just because.        

She may be very hungry and needs something to boost her glucose level.  So water won't cut it.  That just makes her hungrier.  Try giving her a warm bottle of formula.  And she should calm right down and go back to sleep.   Because the longer she cries the gassier she becomes.  

It's very normal for babies her age to still wake up during the night for feedings.  My son is 13 mos old and he still wakes up a few times a week crying and shaking.  But I know that his levels are low so I need to feed him.  And that's okay.  Keep in mind, that's all they can do is cry if something's wrong.  

CIO is okay at times.  But make sure your baby is satisfied and happy.  Talk to her pediatrician too.  Because she seems to need something, though.  Perhaps, just her mommy.  

All my best!

dovebar24

    

Answer 6

The CIO method is not letting your child cry until they are asleep.

You let them cry for about 10-15 minutes, then go in (don't pick them up) and sooth them.  Rub her back, sing, whatever.  Then repeat.

Answer 7

maybe her tummy is upset from all the fruit....  

Answer 8

how long has this been going on? if its been more than like a week, i would not assume its just a habit she's taken up. i would rethink the reason behind the waking.

i think letting your child cry is fine.but, obviously, you need to make sure theres not a legitimate need behind the waking. try giving her more calories before bed, in the form of whole milk yogurt, baby oatmeal, and a fruit- then mabey wash it down w/ some formula? (or whatever she's drinkng)- really load her up- and see if it doesnt help, i bet it will! do you notice that she's starving in the morning? well, theres your answer.  

Answer 9

I despise CIO, ferberising - call it what you want, you are still divorcing yourself from your child.  

the continuum concept may be old but so is the human race - your child will thank you for the attention, it will take a little longer but children are not there to be disciplined, they are there to be loved.

Answer 10

Depending on what time she is going to bed for an 8 month old she might really be hungry.  If she is crying beyond 45 minutes my pediatrician told us with my son that we need to console him, feed him, etc.  My son at that age use to think that 4:30 am was a fantastic time to wake up for the day.

Otherwise it is your choice.  I also let my son cry it out starting at 10 months.  It took him one weekend of crying for 40 minutes the first night, and 20 minutes the next night to begin sleeping through the night.

Answer 11

I don't believe in CIO. I think it is cruel. When I was "a few months in" and stupid, I listened to everyone whotold me to let my son CIO. He cried for over 4 hours. I will NEVER let my son suffer without comfort again.

If I'm hurting or need comfort, I want my Hus to be with me and that's what we are going to do for our children.

Honestly, at 8 months, my son needed a nighttime bottle. He was hungry. He hit a growth spurt at 6 months that lasted about 3 months. Yes, I was tired, but sometimes that's what being a parent is about. Eventually, he stopped wanting the night feedings.

The good news is: They don't go to college needing to wake up at night and eat.