For those who have had an abortion?

Question

I posted a few days ago that I was considering having an abortion. I have decided to go ahead and go through with it. I would like to hear from women that have actually had one.. How painful was it? Did you have lasting side effects? & do you regret it now? I would rather not hear any more about how I am killing an innocent child, I'm going to h**l, etc. You don't know me or my circumstances. Also please don't bite my head off for posting this in the pregnancy section.. there isn't an abortion section & abortion is part of pregnancy, Thank you to anyone with any real advice.

Answer 1

I had one 5yrs ago and they put me in a twilight sleep so I felt nothing, after was heavy bleeding and cramping for about 4wks. I have no lasting side effects and have 2 beautiful girls now. I did regret it for months after, but after lots of repenting and being forgivin by god I've made peace with it. Best of luck to you and sorry bout all the bashing

Answer 2

Adoption is another answer if you can't afford the baby or don't feel you are ready.  I've  never had one because I am pro life. But there are many women and men who want a baby because they can't have one. Maybe you could start looking into that. You can even choose the parents. You can choose to continue to see you child every blue moon or cut all ties at once with the adoption. Don't feel forced to keep the child if you are not stable. I mean that in any way. Give it to loving parents who are praying for the baby that is in your womb. Good luck, these are hard decisions. In adoptions if you get the right adoption agency. You get to look through families portfolios with pictures of there homes and life and other kids if they have any. You will know there jobs and interest and religion. You will feel confident in this choice. I hope the best for you.

Answer 3

I had one 16years ago. Not painful. No regrets. No side effects.And certainly NO lectures with my answer. You do what is best for you!  

Answer 4

I haven't ever had one but my sister did not by her choice but because she was going to die if she didn't do it (the placenta ripped away from the uterine wall and without an abortion my sister would've bled to death) anyway it was still an abortion- the baby was alive and she went through the entire process. After the procedure she came home where I was waiting to help her. She couldn't stand up straight due to the severe pain she was literally bent over, this lasted for about 3 days on the 4th day she was able to stand straight up but still was in a lot of pain. We refilled her prescription for pain meds 3 times and she was seen in the ER because she started to hemmorhage. She also had terrible nightmares that lasted for 6 months straight- she kept hearing a baby crying and it would wake her up and she would search for this baby that wasn't there.

It's a hard decision and it is killing your baby whether or not you want to hear it or not. If you feel bad about it at all it will haunt you. I bought books to help her out and all of her symptoms were a typical case of an abortion.  

Answer 5

It depends on how far along you are and what procedure you're going through.  Generally, the longer you've been pregnant, the more physically painful and dangerous an abortion will be.

Studies indicate that about 20% of abortion patients experience psychological stress, such as strong regret, related to their abortion.  However, not every woman has the same level of risk.  You are more likely to experience post-abortion stress if you:

~ Morally oppose abortion

~ Have a pre-existing mental illness

~ Have conflicting maternal desires

~ Are getting a late-term abortion

~ Feel pressured or coerced ("it's my only real choice")

~ Make the decision to abort based on inaccurate information

~ Are young or emotionally immature

~ Lack social support

~ Have had previous abortions or miscarriages

Answer 6

You can find any information you are looking for at prolife.com (I know it's a pro-life site, but they have a lot of information just the same).  As a side effect of abortion, you may have trouble getting pregnant or carrying a baby without miscarriage in the future, and many women experience lasting psychological and emotional problems.  You're much more likely to suffer from depression or commit suicide.  Most women regret it at some point in their life, if not right away.  If you change your mind, I know of several loving couples who would love to adopt your baby.  Please let me know if you're interested.  I am [e-mail].

Answer 7

I chose not to have one when faced with an unplanned pregnancy- and as hard as it;s been, I am glad EVERY day i didn't do it...but I am not in your shoes. The handful of friends i know who've had one have regretted it down the line- choose carefully, and good luck.  

Answer 8

I have never had one either and it is your choice but all i know is how i felt after a miscarriage at 9 weeks in april.

Devastated did not want to live feeling worth less and not want ing to go on.

Miscarriage is similar is some ways to abortion you still loose something you have loved and carried .

Except miscarriage is natures way of getting rid of a baby not like an abortion.

Get some counseling first hun before you do say yes to this one moment of madness can lead to a life time of regrets

Answer 9

I am not a girl, but I have been by the bed side of a dear dear friend of mine when she had hers done. And I have dealt with other family members and friends who have gone through it.

Yes it hurts.  Pretty bad too.  The pain from the procedure will last about a week, or so.  On top of that the cramps, heavy heavy bleeding and nausea (picture the worst period you have ever had, and multiply it by about 10).  And the flu.  You won't have the actual flu, but it will feel like you do.

All in all, it lasts anywhere from 4 to 12 days then you are back to normal as far as your body goes.  The longer you wait to get it done the worse it is.

Then there is the emotional and mental stuff.  If you have someone to talk to then do it, and do it often.  If you don't, start a journal.  The emotional side really just has to run it's course. The mental side is a fear, a fear of regret or forgetting.  Writing everything you think about or feel down in a journal will help later on.  When you get those bad feelings you can reread the journal (or re-talk to the friend) and not have the fear of losing those memories.

It is tough either way, but you will manage and be fine.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Don't do it, you'll regret it

Answer 11

I never had one but i did have a unplanned pregnancy... abortion was never an option for me... a baby is a blessing and will make you smile every time you have a bad day the are so pure and Innocent and think about it, your baby never asked you to make him that was you choice and should think about this long and hard because you might regret it later....

also try this website it will inform you a little more about abortions and the process of each abortion

http://www.abortionfacts.com/literature/...

good luck!