For those who met your perfect spouse..well perfect for you..?

Question

Did you instantly know you had found what you had been waiting for?

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

There was an instant connection, but there were some rather huge obstacles to any idea of a romance. I first thought of my current husband as a special man with whom I had a special long distance friendship.

This is my second marriage, and I was a widow for eleven years between spouses. I met my current husband at an Online dating website. I had become comfortable in my life as a single parent, and my children were all grown, except one who just turned eighteen, and was basically just comfortable with my children and waiting on the grandchildren. I had no real intention of looking for another Mr. Right. I was on the website for adult companionship, you know, some men I could go on dates with, do fun things together. I had lived in my home town for all except 7 years of my life, and owned my own home where I raised my children. My entire family lives in that town, and the idea of ever moving away never occurred to me.

I met my husband at the Online website, he was a far distance away. I was new to the dating sites, and didn't even know all of the features. Well, one night I suddenly had a popup window appear on my screen, and this man said, "Hello, how are you this evening?". I was shocked because I had no idea that website had a Chat facility! I cautiously responded back that I was fine, and from there we chatted for over 5 hours, and it felt like only 1. It felt that way for him too. I knew he was a special guy, but I new right off he lived in another state, and that moving away was never in my life plan.

So, while I knew this man was a special person from the first night, I didn't have any intention of pushing forward with any type of relationship. We would chat on the site for hours every night, and it was very nice to meet such a sweet man and we quickly became close friends.

At the time I had told him that I would never move away or have a long distance relationship, and I thought he was in agreement. He agreed all right, but his real plan was to seduce me and sweep me off my feet and marry me!

He knew immediately that I was the one he had been searching for over six years. He had started with his area, quickly got tired of the materialistic women in that area, and then moved further afield. He tended his year old granddaughter over night for five nights a week, as his daughter worked the graveyard shift as a nurse. He had been talking with women Online for companionship, but he too had given up on the idea of a committed long term relationship, let alone get married again.

So, while I initially looked at our relationship as a friendship, he was committed to courting me and getting me to see that just because he lived in a different state, and I had lived in my town most of my life and all my family were there, that it didn't curtail the notion we were meant for each other.

As we chatted on a nightly basis, we grew closer. He always respected my need to feel safe, and never attempted to cross my boundaries or push me faster than I was ready for. As time moved on we went to the telephone, and then one day I woke up and realizes I had to at least meet him and see if this had anything more to it than a friendship. I booked a flight out the next weekend and by the time I left for home we were totally in love. We married a year and a half later and I moved to his state with my children's blessings. They have moved here now too.

So, while I knew he was a wonderfully special man, it took me some time to understand that life can take you places you never would have expected. I am very happy with him and we will have our second anniversary in November of this year.

The bottom line is I had no idea I was waiting for anyone. I had looked for a period of time, but many the men were just horrid. I met some very nice men in my area who I dated casually, but nothing really special. I gave up on the idea of a Mr. Right in my life, and that is when he dropped into my life, literally, popping into my computer from a different state! I think how we met is wonderfully romantic. Even more romantic is he knew right away that I was his Ms. Right, and went about ensuring I became his wife.

That is the short version of how I met my current husband, and how he turned my life upside down in short order, and changed the course of my and my children's futures for the rest of our lives. There isn't always instant writing in your heart that this is the man or woman for you, especially when there are some rather large obstacles to a romance. lol

Good luck and have a nice day.

Answer 3

I felt an instant connection as though I had known him forever....but it took awhile to realize he was the one for me.

Maybe because we were both dating someone else at the time.

Answer 4

I would not say that it was an instant attraction , because we met on-line , but I knew after just a few phone conversations with him that we were so closely matched. We talked the same , we have the ]same goals , the same ideas and we were often finishing each others sentences . We were Best Friends first and the deep abiding love came later . When we met in person , all I can say is WOW!  The very first time I saw him walking across the airport lobby I was so amazed at how those feelings intensified and then when we touched hands for the first time I knew I was finally home ! We are Soul Mates for sure .

I feel like if we had met in person the first time it would have been an instant attraction . I Love him with complete devotion and he loved me the same . It feels good to feel whole and complete . We just fit together in every way and in all aspects of our lives . We make the same decisions even though we are still 8,500 miles  apart until he gets his Visa to the States . Being in love with your Perfect Soul Mate is the most wonderful feeling in the world ! Good Luck and God Bless.  

Answer 5

Oh yeah!!! The first time I seen my husband I knew I was going to marry him..

Answer 6

Yes - Instantly!  :o)

Answer 7

nope i didn't even like him until months later lol

Answer 8

Yes.  

Answer 9

I didn't know when we first met, but after our first 8 hours together I did!

Answer 10

Yes, I knew after the first date. I don't think it necessarily happens that way for everyone though.

Answer 11

No, we were friends before we started dating and then before that we just talked. It wasn't until one night after a date we had I realized that he was the one. By that time we already had a daughter and found out that we were pregnant again with another child. I'm not a believe of love at first sight. It might happen, but its not that way. Love takes time to measure above lust and wanting. I did know that I had such a comfort with him that i have never had with any other guy before. It was as if i knew him before we actually told each other we loved each other and meant it. Here lately people say, " I love you" too freely and not really meaning what they are saying. I had to learn that what I felt before was just lust and not actual love. Where I did care a lot for him, at the moment I wasn't thinking of spending my life with him. I knew i wanted to be with him but it was out of us having our first daughter. It wasn't until we got pregnant with our second daughter and me moving in with his parents that i found out just how things were with me and him. It was more than me wanting to be with him because we have kids, it was more than the s*x or even wanting to be a family. I wanted him because through all that we had been through he was there and kept his promise to me. That no matter what if we were to start having kids before we married we would still be there for me. We've been married almost 10 years this coming Aug 31 and with 4 kids later we are still very much best friends and the best companions and lovers to each other. I am more in love with him now than I was 13 years ago. We've been together 13 years, married 10. Its a wonderful thing when you can actually say that and mean it.  

Answer 12

Yes, her huge trust fund, which will be fully available in 2010.

Answer 13

not instantly . i realise his qualities one at a time . by the time i knew he was right for me . no doubt i had to marry him .

Answer 14

No, I didn't instantly know and how could anyone?  When you "see" someone you don't instantly know if they are jerk or not (or abusive).  You don't know there finances, what religion they are, if the in-laws are busy bodies that will mess with the marriage or many other concerns that MATTER.

Those people who answered "yes" simply got lucky (the whole love at first sight).  It was simply "lust" at first sight and some r****d saying "oh I'm going to marry that guy some day" and it just happens that the guy isn't a child molester.

Answer 15

No not instantly but i know i liked him a lot and was very attracted to him.

Answer 16

Yes!