For those who were adopted and found out who your birth...?

Question

...parents were & the name they had given you at birth,how do you feel about the name?Thank you.

Answer 1

My mother wanted to name me a long, classic name, like Elizabeth (but not that).  Some SW at the Florence Crittendon home told her NOT to do that because it would be changed anyway.  Besides the SW reasoned, she'd want to save that name for her REAL daughter someday. (I am her only child)

So she was advised to name me names she 'heard all the time' so she wouldn't be 'reminded' that she gave a bay away (HA!).  So the name on my OBC says her two sisters names for my first & middle names, e.g. Sarah Jane.

I prefer ALL the names to my very-popular-in-the-60s name.

Answer 2

I like my name better than "baby girl". When I did meet my bmom though she told me my name now is one of 3 that she had picked out for me. Funny how things work out.

Answer 3

I was called Davina . . *ugh* hate the name . . .love my current name but Davina . . glad to have left that one behind.

Answer 4

My first mom gave me a name when I was born.  She wrote a letter to my adoptive parents, asking them to keep at least my first name, as it was very important to her.  She gave the letter to a nun, who promised to give my adoptive parents the letter.

According to my adoptive mom, they were never given the letter.

That really important first name?  My adoptive parents gave me that name as my middle name.  My adoptive mom swears she didn't know that was the name my first mom wanted me to have.  But I kept it (as a middle name) anyway.

I'm glad I have it.  I wish I had known I had it all along

Answer 5

I was lucky - my bmom let my mom pick my name, and it turned out that my name was on both of their top lists of names. However, I would have hated to have someone try to force me to change my name as an adult, or to call me something other than I wished (I have a friend in reunion and her bmom insists on calling her the name she picked originally, which my friend hates).

Answer 6

"illegitimate baby girl xxxxxxx"

not really doing anything for me LOL!!!

lori didnt name me. for her own personal reasons. but she did call me something when she was pregnant-rachael

now understand, i had this nickname way before i found her. my friends were talking one day and said to me 'your name doesnt suit you. you look more like a rachael.'

and it stuck. many still call me that

when i found out that (of all names under the sun) was the name she called me and would have given me, i almost fell off my chair. talk about coincidence!

EDIT

i love the name rachael. i always have, but when i found out that would have been what she named me it took on a whole new meaning. it wasnt just a nickname or title, it was a persona for me. i felt it summed up who i was. i cant exactly explain how or why. it just fit. as you see, i still use it on a daily basis.

i guess what i am trying to say is, it feels like your favorite pair of shoes or jeans. they wrap around you and fit so well, mould to all that is you. it just feels like that, does that even make sense to anyone but me?

Answer 7

my name was "Infant". Turns out my current first name is the same one that my nmother had planned on. My middle name is different than what she would have given me.

Answer 8

My OBC states 'Unnamed'.

And my mother is not up to talking about things yet - and maybe never will be.

I wish I knew what she would have called me.

Maybe she just dissociated from it all - as she was sent away to another state by her controlling mother - and told "Do not come home with THAT baby".

I've been told that during the era (60's and 70's) - all adoptees had 'Unnamed' on their OBC's in Australia - it was just the practice of the times.

I've never really liked my name.

When I found my bio sis - also an adoptee - she started calling me 'Possum'.

It made my heart melt - to have a nick-name from someone that is bio related to me (we are very alike).

So it's stuck ever since - obviously!!

Answer 9

Apparently my birth name is "female."  I'll stick with the one my a'parents gave me.  (-:

Answer 10

My birth mom didn't want to name me.  My mom and dad said to her if she wanted to pick a name they would happily keep it but she left it up to them.

So I didn't really like being called baby girl____!

Answer 11

I found out my real name and it isn't so bad. Couldv'e been worse.  :)

Answer 12

I never used to like the name, but once I found out that that is what my mother had chosen for me, it kind of took on a new meaning.  The name is part of her name; she wanted to give me something that would be from her.  Unfortunately, that was changed.