For what reason would a child be deemed "unadoptable"?

Question

For what reason would a child be deemed "unadoptable"?

Answer 1

In most cases, people want to adopt newborns and infants.  Toddlers next and younger children.  Very few people looking to adopt a child are willing to adopt older children / teenagers.  It's depressing - they need love and guidance more than ever!

Answer 2

The adoption agency thinks that the child will not be adopted, so they basically take this away from the child. This will ruin the child's life, and they will stay in the adoption agency until they can be thrown out.

Answer 3

Dead... I think a child should be alive to be "adoptable", but thats just me.

Edit: I assume that the 4 ppl who gave me thumbs-down  would like to adopt dead children. More power to you! They are alot easier to care for.

Listen, it may seem that I was being funny, but the truth is every child is adoptable to someone. No child should be unable to be adopted.

Answer 4

Only after they have "aged out" of the system.

Answer 5

i think you might be confusing "unadoptable" with "difficult to place."  correct me if i'm wrong.

there is really only one real reason for "unadoptable"

-parental rights are not terminated; hence the child is not available for adoption.

there are serveral for "hard to place."

-the child is hard to place because of age.

-the child is hard to place because of disability.

-the child is hard to place because s/he is part of a sibling group.

-the child is hard to place because of race/ethnicity.

-the child is hard to place because of behavior/emotional issues; or past issues with abuse.

Answer 6

I was told my son was "unadoptable" due to his extremely advanced age.

Did I metion he was 29 months when I was told that?

Answer 7

Sometimes a child is considered unadoptable (although I would prefer "difficult to place") if he or she is mentally or physically disabled, is no longer an infant, or has siblings .  (Agencies now don't usually break up families  by placing the children with different sets of adoptive parents.)

Answer 8

I don't think any child should be deemed unadoptable.. Its a child and it deserves Love

Answer 9

I was told my daughter was unadoptable and she was only 2 yrs old.  I asked why and they said that she was too emotionally, mentally, and physically "damaged" and would disrupt the family too much.  I fought non-stop for four months to get her so that she wouldn't be split from her older sister, who they told me I could have.  She was on handfuls of meds and was so drugged her eyes were constantly drooping, her speach was slurred, and she was clumsy like a drunk.  We had to go to counseling to prove we were able to handle her issues.  I eventually had to threaten to go to the press with the story and they magically changed their mind and we got both girls.  Unadoptable is a horrible term that means the child is so damaged they institutionalize them for life.  They actually told me that.  Her birth mother was on heroin, methadone, crack, crank, coke, alcohol, and smoked and she was schizophrenic, a hooker, a weapons and drugs dealer and her father was all of the same and a murderer.  Then she was abused in ways that I cannot describe here.  She had issues for sure, brain and central nervous system damage and grew up to have early onset schizophrenia at 14.  But I proved them wrong and adopted her anyway.  She's made our life interesting, that's for sure.  She is our daughter and we love her.  You have to decide for yourself what you and your family can deal with.  Good luck.

Answer 10

If the child's parents' parental rights haven't been terminated yet?  (In a foster-child situation).

Answer 11

In most cases, either the parental rights have not been terminated or it is because the child has reached a certain age and has chosen NOT to be adopted.  Otherwise, the child has family ties that the courts choose not to sever.  For instance, a mom of an 8 year old might be imprisoned and the judge decides not to sever the ties.  That child would be considered unadoptable, so would remain in foster care.

BTW, it's pretty uncommon for a child with disabilities not to be adoptable.  There are cases however, where the child will likely be institutionalized (usually due to profound retardation or violent behaviors).