For years, certain family members have been picking on my one brother. How can I stop this. ?

Question

I come from a large family. We are all living, except one brother who died recently. We are two boys and five girls. I'm the youngest of the two boys. We are scattered across the country. (Canada.)

The girls continuously pick on the oldest boy. He is an artist, single, he is struggling to make a living, however he is a good person, non drinker, non smoker, works hard at what he does. Some of the girls are heavy drinkers, smokers. One of my sisters is a manic depressive, she is on medication.

My (our) Dad was alcoholic. My mother is a control freak. I suspect that a lot of the problem is from her telephone gossip, and unfounded accusations. The girls are constantly sending him insulting e-mails, etc. etc. At family reunions, they are always on his back, to a point where he wants nothing to do with family.

I am worried that he will stay marked with this. What should I do to stop this insane behavior??

Answer 1

they are probably jealous that hes nothing like hes parents and they are they probably sense he is gunna be successful  in life i would tell him not to bother with the mean sisters tell him to change the numbers have no contact with them till they realize what they do to him.. hes better without them i stay away from my brother because he's nothing but trouble i changed my number because he usta harass me and hang up on me he's a alcoholic and causes trouble with anybody and drags u down with him.. so i just dont bother with him anymore i love him but i got my own life  

Answer 2

Speak up to your family that they need to chill and not be judgemental because they have no room to judge.

Answer 3

tell your family to p**s off and if they wont stop u and brother shud stop meeting with them

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Answer 4

You would agree with me that you are coming from a very dysfunctional  family ; OK so theres no miracles you can do ; because your parents destroy the self esteem of every kid ; I think I would gang up with my brother and if he feel supported by you ; it will give him some strengh and courage ; to face once a year a family reunion . I would also advice him to  change  his   E Mail and phone number to make sure  the sisters cannot insult him anymore  

Answer 5

yeah it is!  it is ur place. to stand up for him.  hes your brother.  i would just let him know how u feel about it.  tell him say u know i really dont like the way my mom and sisters treat you. so i totally know where ur comming from. that way he'll feel a little better knowing he has atleast one family member that actually loves him. and understands him. i dont really get why ur mom and sisters and so on would treat him this way. he sounds like a decent person. how sad people could be.  its hard i get where u comming from. even ur own blood can be cruel.  but i guess thats life right? so i really wish u and ur brother the best. and good luck.  

Answer 6

confron them and tell them to stop.

and tell your brother how much he means to you and that this is bothering you, even if it is not him.

they do it out of jealousy, as they wish they could be a non smoker drinker and free to do what he wishes.  artists will always be misunderstood and underappreciated.

Answer 7

If you see them acting that way toward your brother and he's not doing anything to defend himself just say to them "What is wrong with you?  Why are you always so rude to ____?  If I were _____ I'd have nothing to do with any of you.  You're all a pack of jackals."

Answer 8

It's not your place to stand up for him, encourage him and reinforce a positive mental image to him. But you can't stand up for him, thats his job.