For young adult women who are considered attractive by society? ?

Question

For young adult women who are considered attractive by society, I have a question.

I don't know if I'm attractive or not, although some guys have asked for my number. I'm moving to a big city all by myself in less than a year, and I was wondering what type of things happen to "attractive" women. Do you feel less safe or was there a change in behavior in the city?

Answer 1

Duh, girl if you are old enough to be moving to a big city all by yourself, then I think you are old enough to "IMAGINE" what THINGS can happen to women, regardless if they are as attractive as you seem to think you are.  =P  

Answer 2

Really, who is going to be vain enough to say they are considered attractive by society....I would answer your question but I'm not sure I'm pretty enough.

Answer 3

I don't really know what you mean...but I'll try. It depends on what city and where you live. But what all women need to know is that they are never safe, despite how they look. If a man is desperate enough to kidnap/rape/murder a women, I doubt he'll be picky and spend time choosing a "banging hottie". My advice? Carry mace, don't walk alone at night, be careful on subways and buses, and avoid short cuts.

Answer 4

If you move to a large urban centre from a smaller town, the main thing you will find is that things are almost the same ~ but more so.

Cities ARE a magnet for people who want to remain anonymous, obviously, so you are wise to take extra precautions, at least until you know your way around.

Spend some time getting to know the geography of the area you live in ~ where there are through streets and blind alleys, where the police and ambulance stations are located, the shortest way home from the shops if you have to walk.

Also, remember that many big cities have a kind of 'night shift' of citizens that start waking up when most are sleeping. While these people are mainly just those who prefer the night, some are hiding out from the day for good reason.

Just be careful, without feeling the need to change yourself. And, if a situation does not feel 'right' or comfortable, just walk away ... fast if need be.

If you can find someone who is a local person to give you a few pointers and heads up, that is always a great way to find out how things work.

Like anything new, you have to learn the ropes. Once you do, I hope you find the city life very interesting and exciting.

Cheers :-)

Answer 5

Hon - continue to go to school and get your degree(s).  You are still young and as it has been stated you don't have to be "attractive" to be taken advantage of in ALL the many ways that bad things can happen to women.

I have lived all over the world, East Coast, West Coast, even an Island. I use to be a model and have traveled and lived by myself 90% of the time. When I would go out, I would ALWAYS meet friends from work at the place or go with them. DON"T trust strangers period!!

My suggestion: don't go anywhere by yourself in a new city or any location until you totally feel comfortable.

Always have CASH and credit card and a good running car with AAA roadside asst., your cell phone and charger. If you don't have the BASICS - stay at home until you get it together.

Do I need to add --- PLEASE do not pick up guys or go home with them!!! Listen to your inter voice - that is your warning sense talking to you.

I saw this show -- a woman was lonely went to a bar picked-up a 'nice guy' - was making out with him in the back of the BAR! He BITE her on the lip as they were kissing...4-5 days later she was sick ... he had given her an STD!!! Long story short..... She died from that bite on her lip! True story.

Oh!  LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES OF OTHERS  - SO YOU WILL NOT GET BURNED!!!  You will have plenty of time to hang out. Go to college get a good job... :-)  

Answer 6

*Apparently* I'm very attractive. I don't say this because I believe it, but because that's what other people have told me so my response in turn is, "Whatever you say."

Anyway. I moved from California to a college town in the mid-west about a year ago. This town is bigger than the one I grew up in by about 40,000 people,so the population is roughly 180,000 people, which isn't huge but it's big enough. The demographic out here is completely different though. I went from a middle class suburb to a college town. I get catcalled more out here than I ever did back home.  I get hit on/asked out/invited to Frat parties at work by the customers who come into my fitting room. I had the same kind of job back home and again, it never happened.

The average age in this town is 32 , because the university has 40,000 students, most of which are under the age of 30. I attribute my being cat-called at to the fact that there are more young men here, and that the guys who catcall at women are more likely to be young men in their teens or in college than older men. I know that's a generalization, but that's been true based on my experiences anyway.

I've heard that in someplace like New York, you get catcalled or groped every day on the subway (or just walking around) by random guys. Whether or not that's an actual fact, I don't know, but that's what I've heard.