Forgive and Forget OR Forget and Replace?

Question

My best friend always wants to come to my house. My parents don't exactly like her because she is kind of rude. And messy. But I always pick up after her. Well, today my mom said she could come and spend the night. She asked me to ask my mom yesterday so I did. I called and told her she could and to call back when her mom woke up to bring her here. I waited an hour for a call so I finally called. She wasn't even home. She went to another friend's house. She had my other guy friend call me and tell me that she couldn't come but she didn't.

My point is...it was her responsibility.

And lately, we've been fighting about our friends a lot.

Ditched again...

Forgive and forget ORRR Forget and Replace?

Answer 1

Replace.  Her rudeness to your mother, and to you, is best forgiven but forgiveness isn't an invitation to, again, be abused by her inconsideration of plans you and your mother made.  In all honesty, I fail to understand why you would consider her to be a friend as people are judged by the company they keep.

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Answer 2

Forgive, forget and then replace.  She doesn't sound like a very nice friend at all.  I think your mom is right about her.  Moms usually have pretty good instincts about friends.

Answer 3

You're right.  It was her responsibility, but I'm kind of a second chance person, depending on the situation.  In this one, unless this isn't the first time she's done something like this, I would probably give it another shot and forgive, but not necessarily forget.  Try talking to her about it first.  Maybe she has a good reason.  If it happens again, then she's probably not a very dependable or even considerate person and certainly doesn't take your feelings into consideration.  If y'all are fighting often, it may be that you need a break from each other and she doesn't know how to go about telling you y'all need a break and ends up hurting your feelings instead.  I hope it all works out well for you.

Answer 4

dont forgive and forget

dont forgive and replace

talk to her and tell her that what she did was wrong and that it was her respoonsibilty

tell her it wasn't something you thought she would do and now its happening more then ever....

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Answer 5

i hate to admit it, but i used ditch my friends a lot, not that i would hang out with other people, i was just to lazy to go out

umm, you need to talk to her, and ask her the same question "forgive and forget or forget and replace?"

just be blunt, if it's not working out, just ditch her, because right now she's not giving enough importance to ur frienship, good luck