Forgive and forget, or keep ignoring him?

Question

This guy that I have not talked to in over a month and a half, keeps wanting me to forgive him. He sent me a letter of apology about a month ago and a small bouquet of flowers. His daughter died about 2 months ago and he said he wants to make it up to me, for his own redemption and the guilt he feels over losing his daughter. I received a fruit and flower gift basket from him on Friday and a note that explained why he was being so persistant about my forgiving him, that each person that forgives him means a little less guilt he feels about not being able to save his daughter. I am not sure if I should forgive him, tell him to go away, or keep ignoring him like I have.

Answer 1

I don't understand what ignoring has to do with forgiveness.

He said he feels less guilt about not saving his daughter with each person that forgives him.  My goodness, how many people need to forgive him?  And what the heck does that have to do with his daughter?

Forgive him or not...that's up to you.  But ignoring him isn't very mature.

Answer 2

Well, what did he do in the first place?

Answer 3

hard to know unless we know what he did in the first place.  

Answer 4

Since you didn't say what happened in the first place it is hard to have an opinion on if you should forgive him or not.  But honestly even if strangers feel you should forgive him that doesn't necessarily mean that you will be able to.  Forgiveness is a very personal thing that you have to feel on your own. Sometimes your just not able to forgive someone.  If your truelyl hurt then just because strangers feel you should forgive isn't really a good reason to forgive.  

Answer 5

its always good to forgive somebody, depends on what was done at the time that he is seeking forgiveness. if you feel you need to forget him then that is your sole choice.

Answer 6

wasn't this question already answered like a few weeks ago? if you are not willing to forgive him then tell him to leave you alone and make sure he understands clearly. you NEVER mentioned what is he done wrong to you. his daughter just died, so have alittle compassion.

Answer 7

idk it seems like rather than being sorry about what he did 2 you he's seeking to feel better about himself