Forgive him or just keep ignoring him?

Question

I have a friend I have not talked to in a month. He did something that made me quite mad. I found out that he lost his youngest daughter a few weeks ago and since then he has sent a letter of apology and flowers to me. I have not responded. He has sent me a letter of apology via snail mail and apology emails and I have not responded to those also. He keeps asking me for forgiveness he says its important to make amends and hes really humble now, after losing his daughter. I dont know if I should respond or just keep ignoring him. I am wondering if I am doing more damage to him by ignoring him or if I should just let him sort out his life.

Answer 1

He did something to upset you are now HE is reaching out to you.  Don't be a prick and ignore him.  You should at the VERY LEAST call with condolences regarding his daughter.  If you feel that you can accept his apology, then do so in person.  If you aren't ready to accept it, then still offer sympathy regarding his daughter, but politely explain that you can't forgive him for what he did yet.

Answer 2

You've not indicated what made you so mad, nor how he lost his daughter. There's lot's here open to interpretation. If he said something to you, that made you "mad", then it must have been something, that you found at the time, totally unforgivable. So no amount of apologies, nor flowers should make it right, and do you have proof he "lost" his daughter, or are you relying on his words? Have you contacted this man, in real life, or just on the net? People make up heartbreak, and lie to gain sympathy on line, he might be doing that. Don't rush into any guilt trip till you have the facts. Hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

Never withhold forgiveness.  Someday you will need to be forgiven for something.  The man has made an honest appeal to you.  Don't hold back your forgiveness.

Answer 4

it takes alot to apologize dude, he's trying his best to make things right and youre not making it any easier on him. losing a loved one is ALOT of pressure. i would email him back but also let him knwo that what he did really hurt and frustrated you.