Foster Children?

Question

I have 4 boys and 3 are foster children. I am adopting 2 of them. I love them so much and want tons more. Am I crazy for that?

Answer 1

Good for you Cherish.  There is nothing wrong with adopting children, even more from the foster care system. Of course if  you had posted that you have 4 biological kids and wanted way more, some would say go for it.  Don’t look for much support here unless you have certain views.  A lot of people here say not to adopt a baby (unless its in FCS) but adopt from FCS and just look at the responses from a woman who has said I have adopted from FCS and want to adopt more kids from there.

As long as you can support them adopt as many kids from the FCS that you feel you can handle.

Answer 2

Adopting a child or having foster children is never a crazy thing! My mother once said to be shortly before the birth of my first child "Honey, all parents are crazy, crazy in love with their little one's" That is as true for biological children and adopted children alike.

I am having a hard time understanding why so many in this section are being so rude to everyone. I understand that adoption is a very emotional and complex issue, I have 2 adopted children myself. But there is no need to allow discussion to get so heated. Why is there something wrong with providing a safe, loving and nurturing home for a child in need of just that?

Answer 3

fishing for compliments...these waters are empty

Answer 4

It is a loving, thoughtful thing to bring children who don't have homes into yours, especially to go the extra mile and adopt them and love them!  So many people are against adoption, however, with 10's of 1000's in foster care, it takes special people to help these children get through their hard times, and very special people to love them.  Sometimes, the kids have already been through so much abuse and h-e-double hockey sticks that they can actually be tough to love, and those are the ones who need it the most.  Our system needs so many workers.  I just had a home study, and am awaiting available courses, and I was told that once approved, I'd probably have as many children as I could take before the night was over, that is how much need there is!  I just wish they'd teach the courses in my area!

Answer 5

I was a foster child. The foster parents I lived with sucked!!!!! They treated us like c**p! I wish more foster parents are more like you. Good job for caring and loving them! God bless foster parents like you! And no you are not you are not crazy. I'll tip my hat off to you anyday.

Answer 6

I am also a foster mother trying to adopt! I totally understand how much you love them and cherish them!  Children are so innocent and we all just want what is best for them...and obviously in your and my cases their bio parents weren't it!

Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

dont adop them

Answer 8

Many people want lots of kids myself included. We have 5 and would love to add more when the time comes.

Answer 9

The anti adoption sentiments are unfair.  Ignore them.  The children in foster care often have no place else to go.  I too have adopted children out of foster care  (2 girls) and am planning to adopt more.  These are wonderful kids that deserve what every other child has...a family.  One that will love them unconditionally, kiss them good night, will show up for parent teacher conferences and make them do their homework.  

The more work with children in foster care and volunteer with places like the adoption exchange, the more I want to adopt more children.  These children are often misunderstood and difficult to parent, but watching their eyes light up as they discover the world is not all cruel is wonderful.

So long as you have the love, patience and financial security to adopt children out of foster care, you should go for it!

Answer 10

Nope you are a brilliant person for that

Answer 11

Girl, youre amazing! You must be so strong!! Im 14, and begging my mum 2 foster children, I know it would be so hard, but I think aslong as you're capable of helping others why wouldnt you? Yet few seem to actually do it! So hats off to you, you're brilliant!

Answer 12

Poor social worker has the right idea!  Your not crazy but rather a wonderful addition to our community.

Best of luck to you and your family!

Answer 13

God bless you (all) and good luck.

Answer 14

You totally aren't crazy at all.  You have a good heart and those boys are lucky to be with someone who cares so much about them.  A lot of ppl do foster care for the money. You obviously aren't since you are adopting them.. I wish you all the blessings in the world and that you get your heart's desire in receiving more children. You are a God send to those childrens lives.  God Bless you and reward you!

Answer 15

As long as you're doing this to fulfill your own desires, yes, I'd say you need some mental help.  Children aren't put into foster care to fulfill your needs, and it's not fair to ask that of a child who already has emotional issues from their own lives.  Please take care of your own emotional health, and work on your boundaries.  These children deserve a mom who is emotionally stable, so that they have a soft place to fall when they are emotionally unstable.

ETA:  Yes, they absolutely DO deserve the best in life.  Which means they deserve a mom who is EMOTIONALLY STABLE, and is not dependent on defenseless kids, who have thier own issues to deal with, for her own happiness.  You are NOT doing this for the right reasons, if you're doing this because you "want tons more".  They need time, attention, love, and your full emotional support.  You can't give that if you're so concerned about your own wants.

BTW, loved the abusive email.  Nice one.

Answer 16

Only oif you can afford them, and that needs a pro to look with you at your dough situation, Lot and lots of expenses come up.

Answer 17

Not  sure why you're getting negative replies. Adopting 2 boys sounds wonderful. I'm assuming you can provide them a good stable home. I think adopting more later is also fine so long as the ones you have are doing well. They may require more attention than you think so take is slowly and make sure each gets enough love and nurturing.

Answer 18

I think the negative responses you are getting may be a result of the other question you asked about your 11 yo foster child where you said ugly things about him.