Foster Parent of 5 children they are up for adoption but I don't think they are a good fit for me.?

Question

My husband and I became the foster parents of a family of 5 children. I do want to adopt but I don't feel these are the right group of children for us. What should I do? I feel so guilty for not wanting to keep them, any suggestions?

Answer 1

Don't feel guilty, if you feel that they are not the right fit, then you should find some different foster children.

If you keep these children out of guilt, they will not feel loved.

Answer 2

You want to provide these children with the best lives possible. If you do not think they are a good fit for you then you are 100% right. You should talk to whatever social worker you and your husband use and let them know that you do not think that this situation could be a permanent one.

Just offering your love and patience to these kids means so much and providing them with the option of another home is a great choice. Just because they aren't right for you, doesn't mean they aren't right for another set of parents!

You will be doing yourself and the children a great favor by talking to a social worker about their permanent living situation! And who knows what other children you will be able to love and change the lives of.

Follow your gut feeling!