Foster and Adopted Foster People: Have You Made Contact with Your Birth/Biological Family After Growing Up?

Question

I would like to hear about any former Foster Children or People who were adopted from Foster Care that have reunited or made contact with your Biological Family and How Things Went?

Answer 1

I have.

Things went well.

Answer 2

I was adopted out of foster care and reunited with my first family 35 years later.  Although I found a grave when I found my first mom, and there is very little family left on her side, I enjoy a good relationship with my maternal grandfather.

I have an excellent, fulfilling relationship with my nfather, who had been searching for me as well,  I'm very blessed to have a great extended family on this side.  It's been a good thing.

My ndad had a very difficult time throughout the years dealing with his relinquishing me when I was 13 months old.  The whole family says that reunion has been very healing for him.  He's a really great guy, so I'm glad that he's happier now.

Answer 3

i met my bmother when i was 21.  it took 8 years of searching.  

it was weird to look like someone for the first time.

it was overwhelming, i think.  we are similar in a lot of ways.  i've never talked, walked or acted like anyone in my family.

we don't get along, but i would do it over again a million times even knowing what i know now.

Answer 4

im not adopted but both my mother and father are

My mum tried to find her birth mum but when she did it was too late her birth mum had died 3months earlier, it was also a good thing because the family was upset about losing someone they ended up being happy about finding someone at the same time

Answer 5

I have reunited with my extended bio-family.  Because I was molested, I have had no interest to reunite with my bio dad or bio mom.  I've seen my bio mom a few times, but I barely speak with her.  We're like total strangers and I prefer to keep it that way.  

I have gotten back in touch with my bio Aunt & Uncle and cousins.  I also stayed close to my bio grandmother until her death a few years ago.  I have a great relationship with my Aunt & Uncle and their kids (my cousins); they attended my wedding; we visit often and talk on the phone more.  It's almost as if I never lost them except for the lack of pictures of us growing up together.

Answer 6

I was adopted, and "refunded" at age 11 to be raised in foster care.

Reuniting with my birthmother is the best thing that ever happened to me. She is the most wonderful caring woman I have ever met. I hear sad stories all the time about people reunited whose birth parents didn't welcome them, it just makes me so happy that although I had a crappy adoption experience, I've had the most wonderful experience being reunited.

She is a woman that accepts me 100%, loves me unconditionally, I finally have a "real" mother in the sense that she is everything to me that my amother never was.

After being reunited with her, and my entire huge family, I was welcomed with open arms, as if I'd never left. Recently, I found myself in a position that I would have to travel 1000 miles to attend to some buisness, within just a few miles of where my birthmother lives, I'm not a rich woman, so I asked my bmom's husband if I might be able to stay there to avoid a huge hotel bill. What he said summed it all up.

"Samone, THIS is YOUR home. if you ever need to come here for a night, a week, or a year, you can walk through that door at any time, you are OUR daughter"

Answer 7

I was adopted at birth (am now 31). At the age of 22, my biological father located me. He put me in touch with my biological mother (they weren't together, but stayed in touch) I learned that they were 16 when I was born. I am so glad they made the decision to put me up for adoption instead of abort me.... I am in touch with my bio mom often via email and phone. We've seen each other several times. My bio father - I dont' care for him too much, but I am so glad that they found me. It's nice to know who i look like, whose personality I have, medical history, etc.