Foster care is the new adoption????

Question

I thought I might put it on a tee shirt and sell it. Any thoughts???

Answer 1

Yes, my thoughts are that you're beating a deadhorse.  We've already been over this topic several times this weekend.

Answer 2

All of this because of a t-shirt? Dont you think its time to drop it?

Your heart is in the right place and everything, but as an adoptee, I wasnt actually offended by the original t-shirt. I saw it as more humourous.

Sorry but, thats it for me.

Answer 3

I do think we shoudl all adopt from foster care, i just don't believe in foster to adopt programs.

Foster care is for children to go to a home if parents are unable to care for them.  The purpose of foster care is to then try to reunify the family by giving them supports.  (in canada anyway)  Adoption is a last resort.  

While we fostered, we had a situation where mom and dad did not look at all like they were ever going to clean up.  1.5 years had gone by and nothing, still using drugs.  The plan was then for adoption...we of course had interest because we loved this child and started to think of her differently.  By the time they were going to court to get parental rights terminated, the parents actually had cleaned up, at least for four months.  So the judge said let's give parents antoher chance.  Givng that little girl back to her parents was the hardest thing I have ever done.  Saying goodbye to children is always hard and was part of the job but saying goodbye to her when we had put it in our head that she could be up for adoption adn we would adopt her, well we felt awful, and still to this day I grieve.

So I agree that pepole need to adopt from foster care, but not necessarily foster first then adopt.  Don't even put a child up as an option for adoption until parental rights have been terminated.  Any time before that and people can get hurt.

thanks for asking!

Answer 4

My husband and I decided to go into fostering because our son's sister was a foster child and not eligible for adoption. We were told that it was possible to foster her first, then when she was ready for adoption we would be able to adopt since we fostered first. We took 12 weeks worth of classes, purchased a home, traded our vehicles for something larger to accommodate. We visited with her and even made up a room for her. All of this took almost 2 years. She was ready for adoption at age 3. There was a hearing and custody was awarded to the foster mother. The entire time she had said she didn't want the little girl. A few weeks before the court date which we were never notified of she changed her mind. We appealed it of course, and went to court a 2nd time. We were told that it was suspected that because my husband had issues before with SRS and the baby's mother(had to make support payments while child was in his custody-go figure), we were only doing this for revenge. Absolute lies. We only did it because we felt she should be with her brother. 2 year. Our hearts were broken.

I acknowledge that fostering has its advantages, but my husband and I are totally turned off with the system in Ks.

**We have only seen her once since then. Seeing her only brought back a lot of pain. That lady walked in and in my heart I knew more than likely we would not see her again. She represented everything that went wrong with that whole situation.

Answer 5

YEAH! I like your thought of finding ways to support foster adoption but perhaps we could figure out a wording that wouldn't feel offensive to the kiddos who are stuck in the system. I starting writing a website to help inform parents of the "free adoption" that would give a lot of US kids forever home. http://www.adoptive-parenting.com/foster...

Let's get together and open a Cafe Press Shop to raise funds and awareness for these kids!!

Answer 6

i actually like it!

Answer 7

Why would you put that on a shirt? Wouldnt it and isnt it better to be adopted?? And it may seem very rude to children in the court system....You'd make it sound like nobody wants them? That's not the case at all? !

Answer 8

I do feel you are mocking this.  And what is so wrong about foster homes?  

I was in a situation as a child i stayed at 3 different foster homes.  It was a TEMPORARY situation...  That is what foster homes are designed for!

Answer 9

I think it makes me want to puke.  

Foster care kids get enough grief so as it is.  .

Answer 10

That is real sad... But its true! I would buy one from ya~

Answer 11

its the sdame thing

Answer 12

Think of it this way....

would you want a child who has just been placed into foster care reading a shirt that says

"foster care is the new adoption?"

A child coming into care is crying for his/her family.  They don't need to be traumatized by thinking that they'll be adopted out etc.

Put the children first.

Answer 13

i dont think i would get one...sorry!

Answer 14

that is true... but really sad.. these poor kids out there

Answer 15

That is so sad but true!!!

I’d feel like I was dissing foster parents though and they all have a place.

But what is with people just wanting to make money off of fostering kids and not just adopting!?!  Suck up the costs people!  Kids need real homes!  Some of my best friends are adopted and they rock!

Nope, wouldn't buy the T.

Answer 16

i know its not meant to be offensive...but i fear some may take it that way.

foster care is a beautiful thing...but some people may feel you are making light of it...like if you want a child just foster one...when there is so much more involved...

i know that your heart is in the right place...but i'm not sure this is the best way to champion such a heroic thing.

if you foster...thank you...kids needs good homes to love them in.