Foster home and adoption?

Question

Ok, so I live in a foster home. I want my foster parents to adopt me. I love them so much! I don't want to leave them.

Do you think it's alright for them to adopt me?

Answer 1

Not fully knowing your situation I am going to try to answer you in a general way.

If you want them to adopt you then asking them could be a great thing. Keep in mind though... once you are adopted you won't have any access to your natural family as far as records and names go so make sure you already have all that important info. Stuff like a copy of your birth certificate and medical records and all the important info about your family like names and dates of birth for your parents and grandparents and anyone else you think you should have info about. If you have brothers and sisters then make sure you can keep in contact with them too. If you don't already have pictures of yourself from when you were younger try to get them too. If you were baptized or christened find out what church it was at (if you don't know) and ask them for a copy of the baptismal record. You can ask your foster parents to help if it is hard for you to do alone. Alot of the time once someone is adopted they can't go back and get this kind of stuff so make sure you have it first. You might not think it is important now but it could be VERY important when you are older.

I think it is great that you are so close with your foster family that you want to legally be a part of it, just remember that it is just making it legal! (well that and making sure you don't have to move anymore) If you love them and they love you then you are already "family". Having them adopt you will mean that you don't have to bounce around and always be moving anymore and that is awesome.

Hope it all works out for you!!!

Answer 2

talk to them and your social worker

Answer 3

Adoption is a beautiful thing and its definatly worth asking them. If they love you as much as you love them, everything will work out in time.

Answer 4

Yes! I was adopted by my foster parents.

It's better to be adopted by your foster parents than into a strange family.

Answer 5

Hi Sasha,

I remember you from before you were adopted by your adoptive parents and how you had concerns then, based on the unreasonable restrictions they were requiring.  I'm sorry that things did not work out for you there.

Are you back in the same foster home where you were before the adoption?  You obviously love them and are happy there or you wouldn't be asking for them to adopt you.

Ok, this is my advice for you.  If your foster parents have not already approached the subject of adoption with you, I suggest you bring it up and everyone can state what their desires are.  Are they certified as foster parents only, or are they cleared to adopt too?  If not, I'm sure they could change it so they could adopt if they meet the right criteria set forth legally.  Even if they cannot adopt you, you can still stay close to them in the coming years.  Many foster children have a continuing relationship with former foster families.  If they can adopt, I'm sure you will be happy there.  An advantage since you are 15 now, is that you will get some say in where your permanent adoption placement will be.

Every child deserves a happy loving home.  I hope this is the one for you.  Good luck Sasha,

julie j

(former foster child myself)

and reunited adoptee

Answer 6

I hope they do, but some people want to foster and some want to adopt.  Either way, if you feel loved that is terrific and what matters most.  In my county about 50% of our foster families end up adopting!  Yay!  So, talk with them, be honest and listen too.  The better you are at communicating with them openly the better for all of you.  Best of luck to you, you deserve a forever family.

Answer 7

absolutely, You lived with them, that give you a chance to experience the love that they have for you.. You have a bond together.

Answer 8

I think you should tell them you would like for them to adopt you.  Many people start out as foster parents in hopes to adopt (as many people can not afford to adopt).  Good luck, I hope it works out for you

Answer 9

YEA, i think if that sertain family loves u alot and you love them alot then i think you guys should go for a change, such as be a family,but everybody knows that if it was meant to be then it would happen,and if it wasnt then god would make another sign or way you should, or could go

Answer 10

it happens all the time. Talk to them, they might be willing. But also, without knowing why or how long you have been there. They would need your bio parents permission.  I am so very glad you have a good foster family.  sometimes all we hear about are the bad stories but we all know there are lots of good ones out there.

Answer 11

your biological parents (or your original legal guardians) would have to either have their rights terminated or to terminate the rights themselves, if they still have rights to you nobody can adopt you no matter how nice and loving they are or how much you want to be with them. Make you wishes known to your foster family BUT I am going to give you a bit of a warning. If they do decide to adopt you and the rights are still held by the origincal paretns that might get the bio's upset and will get you removed from your fosters care and into anothers. I have seen it happen more than once. Maybe you should just not try and get adopted and you will be with the foster parents for as long as you are in the system. Your foster parents when filing to be fosters said if they wanted long or short term charges, ask them and make them known of your wishes and feelings and if they are short term they will probably change over to a long term care home for you if you were listed as a long term charge and are only in their care as a transition home.

Good luck and i am glad you found a nice foster home.

Answer 12

I don't know what your situation is. First, your parents (your biological, natural, first parents) rights would need to be terminated. Unless they want to do this or there is a reason for the court to do it, you cannot be adopted by someone else. If their rights are terminated, then please do discuss this with your foster parents. I think it would be wonderful!

Answer 13

I would certainly talk to them about it.  Perhaps they are concerned about how you feel about the situation and don't want to be the ones to bring it up first.  

You will probably get a lot of different answers saying what is right and what isn't right, but don't get discouraged.  You need to do what is best for YOU.  That means, if you feel very strongly about this (and sounds like you do), then go for it.  

Good luck to you!