Found Cigars in my brothers backpack?

Question

Last night, I got a call a little after midnight that my brother had been up partying in the mountains with his friends. He was passed out for half an hour by that time already and when I got up there to drag him out I was told he drank two mickeys on top of some beer.

Took us a long time to carry him out of the mountains and got him home and sat him down, and looked through his backpack to look to see what kind of alcohol he had... anyway there were some cigars in there.

I was pissed knowing that he drank so much alcohol but I think the cigars are even worse. I don't know how he could smoke those considering two of our grandparents have died from lung cancer and another close one has lung cancer.

How can I get him to stop smoking and drinking?

Answer 1

one do not yell at him and plz tell me you didnt  tell  his mom and dad thats the worst you can do he needs to know he can talk to you and be calm do not freak  he needs you it will take some time and its up to him to stop to dont push him let him know you love him and want him 2 be safe be a brother not a mother  

Answer 2

You can't. Only he can. He has to want the desire to quit one or the other or both. Both are bad, but with cigars he would come more getting mouth cancer than lung cancer. Cigars are not inhaled. The alcohol I would be more concerned about because of the dangers to himself but more importantly the dangers to others. The most important thing you can do is not be an enabler. Look into you getting into a program of family's of alcoholics. You cannot handle this own you own and yelling, being disappointed, preaching, none of these things are going to help your situation out. I know these programs work really well according to those that I have seen that's been there. Good Luck to you both

Answer 3

I hate to be the one to say this, but he might not be smoking the cigar as is....they might be turned into blunts. The tobacco gets dumped and the cigar gets re-rolled with pot. I'm not saying that he and his friends did this, but it's a possibility, especially if they weren't a brand most people smoke. As much as he will hate you for it, if you are that concerned you should speak with your parents and let them know what you think and how you feel about your brothers behavior. Once he gets help, and realizes that you probably saved his life he'll thank you.