Found out he cheated and he wont admit it!!!!

Question

After my NOW ex going to work, leaving his key for me to lock up (as usual) he left his phones. Ive just come back off holiday and he called me every single day etc - didnt have the foggiest he was cheating. Anyway, hes very possessive doesnt like me having phone calls, gets mad when i switch off my phone etc. But i know in life the person who acts as though they are scared of the other cheating is the one cheating THEMSELVES. He left his two phones at his house when he left out in a hurry. I went in them and found some disgusting messages from and to his ex and some other girls. I called his ex (weve spoke before) she said they are still having s*x. I was so mad i smashed one of his phones, he came back within a hour to get his phones...he is denying it point blank, even swearing on his kids life..HOW SICK CAN SOMEBODY GET its there in my eyes hes a cheat. Hes also sleeping with his kids mum and some other chick. HOW can he lie when its obvious???

I said the first step of me and him talkin is for him to OWN UP but he wont its very frustrating

WHAT the h**l can i do, i celebrated my birthday yesterday and he brought me jewellery, i threw it back at him i felt like smashing his face IN

HELP i know this anger will turn into sorrow i feel ok but we was so good together. Dont know how he found the time. he talks about how he wishes i was pregnant (as i'm yet to find out)

Answer 1

try and get the other girls phone number or try and get them all to meet u together then tell them about the guy And make a plan to get him back.  

Answer 2

1 rule in the guy book....DENY< DENY<DENY

Answer 3

you guys are scumbags

i hope your gf reads this and cuts your b******* off

Empress my symapthy is with you, you deserve much better, your best off without him xxxx

Answer 4

i think u should invite the ex over and have him there and not tell him she will b there,,n when he comes into the room u ask him right in front of her,,see i f he runs if he dose u no n i think u no now that he is a cheat,,and if i were you i wouldnt have his baby now cause why bring a baby into this mess and then u leave him,..why wont his ex have his baby mayb she nose waht a cheat he really is,,,peace

Answer 5

I'm sorry this happened to you but it is your greatest chance to get away from the looser. Pack your things and leave, no explanation, no contact, block his mails and calls. Give yourself time to go through a roller coaster of emotions but know this you WILL get over him. He is not worthy of you if he can cheat on you with one woman never mind 2. This guy is having a great time, if you are happy to share him with other women that's your choice but you know he's wrong and will not change. Get out now stay out and you will meet a decent man. The pain will pass. You dont need to talk to him about it, you have proof he cheated just leave.

I hope you are not pregnant, you have been given a chance to get away from a cheating disrespecting man, pregnancy is going to make things complicated.  

Answer 6

who cares if he admits it or not? its over, forget it. good riddance.  

Answer 7

I cheat on my gf. It is in guys DNA to be dogs.

It is a taboo subject.  

Answer 8

Well, firstly, threaten that you will block him from your kid (if the result is positive) unless he tells you the truth. Tell him that lying is making you more mad than the fact that he was cheating.

Try to make it clear that you want OUT, if he doesn't understand or fully accept the split between you, take all of the possesions he leaves at your house and put them in a big black bag outside on the kerb. Get the locks changed and put the old locks on top of the black bag.

I think he will understand your point, then.

Hope I helped and good luck! ... x ...

Answer 9

How do you know that she (his ex) is not trying to break you both up by telling lies?

Maybe all he was doing was exchanging smutty texts? I don;t condone that! But maybe there was no s*x involved?

I would end the relationship though as there will be no trust anyway after this.

Answer 10

Do you really think you'll ever be able to trust him or that he'll change his ways?

If it was me I'd do a runner and not look back.  Sod him - you deserve better.

Answer 11

Leave that cheat and find yourself a good man I know they all cheat but there are some who respect their women you'll get one in time

For now its good riddance to bad rubbish

Answer 12

Can you give us more details of the texts and a little more description of his ex girlfriends., like were they very buxom with dark nipples, etc. Did the texts make you wet at the thought of the acts he described, could it be that you never allowed your puddy guard down long enough to know the pleasures he describes? I need to know. I am merely a man and you are a woman who holds all the keys. Did smashing his phone make you feel powerful> ? I bet the SIM card was still ok and could be read to get off all those sweaty texts, ohhh sweet jesus. Are you taking the pill at the moment or suffering a heavy period maybe? I am here for you to talk to if you need some nubin advice or just a friend.

David