Found weird books in wife's bedroom?

Question

I found 2 books titled "the only wiccan spellbook you'll ever need" and "nice spells,simple and sweet." in my wifesbedroom. should i be worried? she said something about filling up a box with things that her ex gave her,"hexing" them,and then burying the box,but i didnt really think she was serious. once again,should i be worried? is she playing with fire? and is it something i need to bring up with her mother?

Answer 1

Of course the first thing I do when I have an issue with my husband it ask a bunch of people I don't know on the internet and secondly talk to his mother.  How old are you - 12?

Answer 2

yea. she's gonna be really pissed when nothin happens. haha

shes a blind wiccan

Answer 3

Any group which claims to be able to control the forces of nature for their own selfish gain is delusional,let her believe what she likes,but if the spells are anything more than herbal remedies to cure ailments then ignore them, as power over others is an ego trip which will come back and bite the spellcaster in the bum.

Answer 4

Well,  I do not think you should be too concerned about that. Telling her mother might make your wife angry. You can only wait and see.

Answer 5

It could be worse you might have found out she was L*****n.

Answer 6

That you posted this shows you care about her. I know one of the books, the only wiccan spell-book. You wife is an adult. You don't need to be worried. By talking to her mom you may cause a fight because she could say you don't trust her and you went to her mom and did not just ask her about it.

If you are worried about her, talk to her. Ask her why she feels she need to hex her ex. Speaking from experience its a way of getting final closer.

Answer 7

Hello

She is a grown woman, what has her mother to do with anything? Respect her privacy!

The books that you found, if Wiccan will be earth based, calming & positive. They will teach the positive aspect of creation. So they are nothing to worry about.

I do however feel that maybe some communication with your wife & yourself would work wonders.

Sadhara

Answer 8

Okay, sit down in the same room, and talk with the lady.

You're married to her, you should go to the source, and

ask her what's going on, why the ex's stuff in a hex-box,

and so on. If it's on your mind so much you're posting,

you're asking up the wrong tree here.

Secondly, no matter what religion you profess, your

spouse has a right to her own beliefs. So, keep an open

mind about what she has to say. My DH and I have

different beliefs, and our paths are all right with both

of us.

She is looking into Wicca as something she needs to

know about. She isn't dancing skyclad on your roof,

is she? (Or would you know? You guys really need

a refresher on communications, guy. ) It doesn't

sound like she's into any dangerous stuff, but she

may want to find a teacher, if she's really interested,

so she doesn't go into anything she doesn't intend to.

Her Mother?!?!?!??? My tired feet. No way.

Answer 9

No, she's not playing with fire.  I've never heard of those titles, and they don't sound terribly serious.  (In particular, anything that claims to be a Wiccan spellbook is just screaming for the attention of wannabes.)  Contrary to Hollywood, magic does not go hideously wrong if you make a mistake with it.  If she's just reading something out of a book and doesn't know what she's doing, nothing will happen.  She's playing.  Let her play.

In any case, its none of her mother's business.  Your wife is an adult.  If you have a concern about her, you should be talking to HER, not her mother.

Answer 10

well you should never mess with that stuff it could be very dangerous if she thinks its real

Answer 11

She's playing alright, but there's not a thing about it that will harm her, you, or her ex husband- but it might be cathartic for her.

Leave her mom out of this - she's not 12, for god's sake - she doesn't need disipline from her mom.

Why separate bedrooms?

Answer 12

Your wife could very well being at a crossroads with her own religious beliefs, which is something people should always work out themselves. However the titles of the books you gave us and her previous statement suggest she may be serious about doing something, in which case she shouldn’t. Magic can be very dangerous when used improperly. Spells are very powerful things and when put into the hands of a person who isn't practiced in the art of spells they can turn situations really bad.

The best spells are the ones you write yourself, because you know what you're intent is, you know what is going to happen when you use it. Spells aren't recipes that you swap, a spell that works for one witch may not work for another, because perhaps the basic thought of the spell is the same, their intentions can be different and the spell can backfire.

Also, given the titles that the books have, I wouldn't trust the authors either. The only spellbook or book of shadows any witch or Wiccan needs is their own. The author of the first book is suggesting in its title that you don't have to write your own spells which you should, and no spell, in my opinion can be classified as simple and sweet.

Unless your wife has had years of study in witchcraft I would tell you to advise her not to do anything as she has not training or knowledge of this practice. It’s like having a first year med student performing open heart surgery.

As to confronting her mother, don’t. I wouldn't even let her know you asked about this online. Just let her know what you found and ask her what us going on.

Answer 13

You need to communicate with your wife if you are concerned.  I am a wiccan and my hubby is catholic and he has respect for my beliefs even if they are different than his as I do for him.  

As for going to her mother.... would you like her to go to your mom with your p**n collection?  Or any other little fetish thing you might be into hon...??   You'd say that it was none of your mother's business right??  Well there is your answer.

Answer 14

I would be totally PO'd if you searched my room, and my spouse will not do that.  If you have a question, then you ask your wife.  Leave her stuff alone!

Ask her to talk to you about wicca, if it bothers you.  Accept her answer and leave it alone.   The fact that you would even consider bringing this up with her mother tells me that YOU need help.  

What kind of husband searches his wife's room then tattles to the mother-in-law?  Grow up, goofy!  

bb

MW

Answer 15

Oh, I find this funny.

Did you really ask whether you should talk to her mother? No, talk to your wife yourself, and listen to her, don't try to fix whatever is bothering her. And if she needs to do this to purge herself of whatever history she had with this guy, then let her. Support her.

If she's takes the time to read the books before trying any of the spells, then she should be fine. I don't do negative or controlling spells (i.e., love spells) because I consider them harmful. Without proper knowledge and psychic shielding, the spell can back-fire.  What you put out can come back three fold.

Answer 16

why do you have separate bedrooms???

Answer 17

Yes be very worried. Dont bring it up to her mother brin it up to her! Wicca is a dangerous toy and people often get very mixed up and cant always get themselves out. If you do not have that same belief you should probally tell her to stop.

Answer 18

Your wife has her own bedroom?

Answer 19

wicca?

alright, first of all, unless she IS wiccan, they won't work.

you usually need to call upon the guardians and lady and the lord.

if she hexes things, refer to the threefold law. it'll come back thrice as bad. though, im not sure about objects.

Answer 20

People are going to tell you to be acceptant, but you need to be open minded, and what I mean by that is that you should consider that there is a danger to this.

I've been through a mild form and I understand the chemistry of what happens to people when they get into the occult (its like going crazy, it really is.)  Its very dangerous because it completely opens the door to demon possesion. And you'll notice it when it starts happening. However, your wife won't, and it may be hard or even impossible to convince her because while you're in these things you can't see that its wrong. Which is why you need to help her and not leave it any longer..

Answer 21

I'm not surprised you're disappointed! You did say Wicca???