Freinds being mean? spoiled?

Question

OK so today my friend said i was spoiled because as a 18th birthday present my mum is taking me to Thailand to go to meet the elephants in the nature reserves and we will spend a few days on the coast diving and generally enjoying all the culture and the place. now i think this is an amazing once in a life time opportunity but my friend was being really spiteful about it saying that I'm to stuck up just to have a night out on the town or a party like normal people. well tbh i can do that at any time I'm glad my mum wants to make my 18th present special instead of just going out and getting wasted. anyway shes just been really snide about it all week and it came to a peek today and i told her to stop but she just laughed and kept going so now I'm ignoring her, its not like she is a best friend or anything I'm just still bothered by it.

anyway my question is ; am i spoiled ? and why is she being so mean?

Answer 1

In a sense I would say yes, but in a sense I also say no.  It's your 18th.  That's kind of a big deal, and if your mom can afford to do something so extravagant, then by all means, do it!  Like you said it's a once in a life time opportunity!  It will be amazing and something you'll remember for the rest of your life.

More than anything, I think she's jealous but more importantly, I don't think she wants to be.  I think she knows it's going to be amazing and that she thinks it's awesome, but I think she wishes it could be her, and she doesn't know how to be happy for you without being upset at the same time.  I don't think you should really hold it against her, just try not to talk about it in front of her.  She may take it as you rubbing it in her face even if you aren't trying to.  

Ignoring her won't really solve anything at all.  Just try to be friends still without bringing anything about this up.  Hopefully it will blow over!  

Answer 2

She is jealous!! Good on for wanting to spend your 18th with you mother! Most 18 year olds want to party, not holiday with their parents....

Dont worry about what she says, just go enjoy yourself!

Answer 3

She is jealous, like every one said you are not spoiled, it's your birthday present for goodness sake! she just wishes that she could go on the trip and not you. she might also be mean because she really wants you to go or again SHE wants to go...

hope i helped!

Answer 4

i think she is just jealous

and i dont think that getting a really awesome "gift" means that you are spoiled..being spoiled means that you whine, cry, and arent thankful for all of the things you get, or you just get so many things and expect them, or dont say thank you

and you sounds thankful to me...so i dont think you are spoiled..just lucky

Answer 5

YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT SPOILED!

Your 18th birthday is supposed to be the BEST b-day of your life. And no matter what, don't let your friend spoil your night. she is ahbviously jealous. Your mom is probably taking you on this trip to get you ready for the cold, harsh world of being an adult. So have fun in Thailand!

Answer 6

no you are not spoild that is only being pampered in a way... and i think your friend is just jealous!!! so you should tell your friend that your mom wants to do something extreme for the year you become an adult (at least in america...) and that you are not going to blow off your mom and this great experience because she is jealous!!!!

Answer 7

you're friend is obviously jealous of you.... she really shouldn't be giving you talk like that.

I would never dream of doing that to a friend - you're mum wants to take you somewhere special on a special birthday. whats wrong with that?! NOTHING.

ignore her!! and happy birthday :):) xxxx

Answer 8

She is just jealous, I would kill to go to Thailand for my 18th birthday.   That's like hecksa nice of your mom, but uhh you're friend is just being mean because she wishes that her parents would do that for her and she wants to go there and yeah.  You're not spoiled you're parents just love you and want you to have nice experiences.

Hope I helped ^^

Answer 9

Wow, lucky you, have fun on your trip! And as for your GREEN friend I'd say drop her. Any friend who is jealous of you should be dropped, I mean what's the point? No your not spoiled!  She's being mean because she is jealous and she wants what you have. You are going the right thing by ignoring her, don't take her S**t any longer. x