Freshman moving to college-divorced parents?

Question

my parents divorced when i was 2, and they still loathe each other...they can't be in the same room or talk or anything.

How am i supposed to have them come with me when i move stuff in at college? How did you?

Answer 1

I hate to hear about situations like this when it sounds like YOU'VE had to be the grown up your whole life, acting as referee between them.  That's not the kid's place.  They should be more mature than that.  It's unfortunate.  

The best thing you can do is call each of them and say "look, I know neither of you like to be around one another but can you please just be civil to one another for MY sake?  This is a big day in my life & it should be about ME....I shouldn't have to be a referee between 2 grown adults.  If you don't feel like you can make this day as special as it should be, then I'd appreciate it if you both just stay home.  I'll find a way to move in by myself."

Answer 2

You only ask 1 to go.

Answer 3

Maybe you could invite them separately with an hour or two in between.  Dorm rooms are small and they probably would be more comfortable this way.  

Answer 4

I have a son moving into a dorm in a few days. His father and I have been divorced for 11 years. I plan on helping him get moved in and anyone(dad or step mom) that wants to help or just be a part is more than welcome. This is a very large milestone in a young person life so your parents  need to think of you for once and not themselves. They are capable of being cordial for a few hours I'm sure. It may take some will power but I'm sure you are worth it to both of them.