Freshman year , NEED help .?

Question

Alright , well I'm diana & I transferred last year from a private school in another city to my 8th grade middle school . When I first entered , I kept a low profile . My clothing was still somewhat flashy , neon shirts & skinny jeans with my signature pair of shoes . As the year went on , the group of friends would make fun of me behind my back everytime i talked about a guy to everyone , so I ended it . it turns out , many people knew me . I went awhile without friends ,then turned to the 2nd lowest group on the scale of popularity within reason. I made some good friends & a lot of popular people started teasing me & saying terrible things behind my back. It was the final semester when I got up and started standing up for myself , which landed in summer-online teasing. Now, I'm going into freshman year without my glasses , "scener" , straighter hair . I want to maintain a low profile and have 1 best friend [pref. someone like me] and some other girlfriends & hopefully a crush who knows I exist and whom I aquaint with . How can I do this while still mainting my few old friends, good grades, and not being picked on by the older kids . I don't want to go through another year of c**p but I am for certain that I shall be made fun of once more by the main clique. I know I will have to stand up for myself but any detailed tips on how to wear my clothes , be a good kid , stop my humor from being dry & outright annoying , and land myself some decent friends. I'm looking to move up to the more average category rather than maintaining this loser persona . And becoming friends with "emo/punk/scene" people will not work because they rarely exist where I live. Also, a dumb question I know, but what type of items should I buy? Should I carry a tote or backpack ? [we can carry them around with us] . I got mocked last year for having a big purse that i carried around with me so how can I avoid this . Any & all help is needed .

Answer 1

i hate people like this.  personally, i have carried a purse, backpack, side bag, lunch bag, any type of bag really to school.  i love bags.  the only thing i no longer use is the f***y pack, but guess brought it back last year.  and girls still wear it.  see.  even the f***y pack is cool again.  my best advice is to do what you find comfortable.  because you are the only one who counts.  the only thing you can do is stick it out.

Answer 2

you seem like you have a strong sense of self.... diana don't let those other people bring you down!  you just be who you are and who you want to be. i know it's easier to say that from the outside but here's one thing i wish i'd have realized while i was in HS and worried about similar challenges..... these people won't matter to you after 4 years - they will not be in your life unless you want them there! when i got to HS my bff from kindergarten started being a real twit.  i tried and tried, dang i'd know her all my life at that point. well even after college and everything i tried getting together and stuff since she'd moved about 30 miles from her family and about 2 miles from me....  nothing. granted i didn't care because i had a new life and friends but i had to give it that try and honey it was a waste of time!!  the friends i have now from the school i went too were not the popular people (one is out of her third rehab, another his third marriage and so on and so on) the computer geek (hey computers were rare in the early 80's) and such are my friends now. i never dissed them and am thankful now that i at least stuck with a few people that weren't necessarily the most "cool"  ooh and our class "hottie" and jock - he's about 4 times his size - around the waste!!!  you just be friends with those people who are true to you and you be true to yourself!!!

Answer 3

Ahhh little innocent Diana....you're so cute. You haven't learned the ropes yet. What you have to do is pay off a juvenile delinquent to shove the popular kids down the staircase......problem solved.

Answer 4

I have a giant purse I put all of my stuff in and it's super cute, looks kind of like beach bag with white flowers on it. No one gives you **** for that. Rubber band bracelets, look up scene bands, think about buying the band shirts, skinny clothes, you know.

Remember this, the majority of the problems in high school are because you asked for it. Avoid them and if you think someone is full of **** then smile and walk away. Don't hang out with people who start **** or seem like a******s, if you do your brought it on yourself and you seriously need better company. If they aren't people you care about talking about you, ignore them and when you see them act like they aren't important, but don't be rude.

Most of all, you will learn sooner or later, that high school can be fun but is mostly just a rediculous period in your life that is between childhood and maturity. The majority of the people you meet in highschool don't even have half a brain and they love to pick on people who seem alone, but when they leave for college, and leave their friends, they're as vulnerable as everyone else.

Good luck Freshie.