Friend : Cant say no?!?

Question

hi :)

ok so my nan is a foster carer and in the past year i have got really close to a girl she fosterd, she kept on running away and staying at hostols or her boyfriends so my nan no longer cares for her.. anyway, recently she has been contancting me, begging to stay at mine... i really dont know what to say because at the moment i have a full house with my boyfriend staying all the time and im not sure wether it will be ok because my mum and my nan?? is it illegal for her to stay for a week or two? i cant say no to her she is making me feel so guilty telling me she could be pregnant and all sorts

thanks for your time

x

Answer 1

Talk 2 your nana aout t firstyou dont make the decision 1st cause if you say yes there might be a problem and if you say no you never know she will feel ...

check if she's pregnant you never know though  Tell your nana and find a trap 2 make her come 2 you and bring her 2 to your nan and make her get a test,

Also she probably dosnt want 2 go in the wrong hands but your's She thinks of you as a parent...!

Answer 2

Your just going to explain the problem. Why she can't that is. She may be upset and all but she is going through a tough time.

You Nan could get into trouble and it may result with the loss of her job. Its a big world, you have to worry about yourself and family.

Answer 3

How old is she?

Whose care is she in currently if she is not old enough to be taking care of herself?

It wouldn't be illegal - just contact her current fosterers/social services and let them know.

One thing though - cruel as it sounds - are you sure you want to become this girl's landing pad?

If you let her come to stay for a week it will lengthen into 2 or more and don't imagine she will have changed from the person that kept running away and acting up - after all - that is just what she is doing at the moment isn't it?

Answer 4

You have to say no. If social services find out your nan is never going to work for them again, ever.