Friend Problem? I dont know what to do!?

Question

Well theres this girl and we used to be best friends. We fell out, and we are sort of making up. But the truth is, i dont want to be best friends with her any more. Like i just want to be like just Friends. I dont want to upset her, and i am sort of a quiet person, i dont tend to tell people what i think of them etc. Please help?

Answer 1

Just always talk about your new friends and maybe she'll get the hint.

Answer 2

yeah, thats exactly the same as me.

im just taking it as it is and if she asks you to go out say 'im not to sure but i will check with *blah blah* to see if we are gonna do anything'

that will mean that you would rather do something with them than her.

Answer 3

i have been in similar situations where i have mended friendships but you are right, sometimes you just can't go back to how it was.  you don't have to say that specifically to her if it makes you uncomfortable.  there are other ways to send the message without being mean and heartless.  for instance minimize time on phone with her.  accept only invitations from her that really interest you, invite her to larger group gatherings but maybe few intimate gatherings with a smaller number of friends.  things like this clearly send the message that you enjoy her company and but need to keep things at somewhat of a distance.  you never now, someday you might change your mind and the best friend relationship will develop on its own.

Answer 4

just keep yout distance and take the friendship to the extent you want.. When you feel like you're getting more than you want then back out and slow down a little bit with her. Don't get too friendly just act with her like you would act to another friend of yours.

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Answer 5

You don't want to upset her!!! If you care of that, be sure that you love her and she is your best. Think carefully before doing anything.

Tell her the truth, you may surprise of her respond...

I'm sure you are a kind person, just give her a chance to talk about problems you all faced.

Answer 6

Well, the best thing to do is show her that but don't SAY it because that'll hurt her feelings.

Don't be a snob though. Be nice but not too nice like you love her again!

Show her you have best friends already by talking to your other friends all the time..

P.S. Maybe she feels the same way as you! Maybe she doesn't want to be your best friend either!

Answer 7

just be what you are right now

you are in the precess of being friends again with her after a "fight"

so, dont be close close with her

when you pass her by halls just wave at her and dont stop

she'll get what you mean

and eventually

you'll be friends and she'll have her own group of friends

Answer 8

One way I could suggest is don't lie -- but don't admit. Just start off as close friends, but as you go on and on try to seperate a bit from her. Thats what my best friend did. However sometimes it didnt work , but they did seperate as time came out. In the long run, it will work.

Thats just my own opinion, but it does work from experience

Answer 9

Hey.

Tell her you think that being best friends isn't working out since we fellout. It's hard if you are quieter but you need to tell her how you feel.

I went through this and she understood where I was coming from.

Good Lucky Babe.

Chloe.

Answer 10

You need to sit down and talk there is obviously a reason you fell out but maybe if you hear her side then youll understand! If not don't worry about it  as you get older your priorities change and that's understandable .

Just don't beat yourself up about it :)

Answer 11

wow i had a problem like that but he was a boy and he stuck to me like gum i use to love him llike a brother but then he started to blame things on me you should tell her that you think "shes really awsome and nice and your lucky to have her as a friend but you think that you should be friends not best friends that way no one gets hurt."

hope i helped! (: good luck