Friend Problems! Help!?

Question

I have two friends that I like to hang around evenly, but they hate each other. They call each other names, and insult each other in front of my other friends and me. Me and my friends are confused and don't know what to do. It gets annoying to hear them bickering during lunch, since we all sit at one table. What should I do? They both want me on their side, but I don't ususally take sides... Help!

Answer 1

i know exactly how you feel.

all u can do really is just like hang around them at different times, and if they start saying bad things be like, Hey, stop talking about them, or something.

hope it helpd

Answer 2

wow i have this happen before  and to end it weather u lke it or not u have to choose sides

Answer 3

don't take sides and talk to them both tell them to work out their differences but if there's nothing you can do stay out of it or you may be forced to take sides, be the messenger of insults or the middleman

Answer 4

Maybe you should ask both of them what`s the problem with the other person

Answer 5

wow... this is a difficult situation ... hmm in my eperience theres only a few options i can give you

#1- find out why they have this undying hate for eachother, and try to solve the problem with them so you can all just hang out without any bickering.

#2- do what you can to make all 3 of you hang out together more often, the more they hang out with eachother the more theyll begin to like eachother as long as you guys have some good times together

#3- lets put it this way hang out with each one like twice a week for example hang out with one of them on monday and thursday, and hang out with the other on tuesday and friday.

#4- choose the one that you know will be more loyal to you and that will stick with you no matter what.

I hope i helped ateast abit.  

Answer 6

Tell them to make up and be friends again. my friends have done this and it gets really annoying. and tell them u r tired of them fighting and if they will not stop just say u wont be there friends anymore! hope this helps

Answer 7

sit them both down and tell them that u love them both, but u don't wanna see them that way. tell them to respect eachother, and everything else will come...

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Answer 8

I've had this problem countless times! Don't make them get along if they don't want to just, if they start fighting again, tell them that you're sick of all of the fighting, that you're not taking sides because they're both your friends equally. Do it in front of them, it'll make them feel like idiots for a little bit, but its up to them to resolve their problems.

Answer 9

Tell them you like Pudding. OR     They just have to set aside their differences and be friends. Because you cant do anything. Its their problem and they just have to become friends one way or another!!!!

Answer 10

See if you can schedule some time for each of you're  friends separately after school. And if you have to sit with them both talk to each one of them and explain that it is not fun for anyone to hear all that bickering during lunch and ask if they can just stop at least during lunch.

Answer 11

first, tell them that you like both of them, and your not going to ruin one friendship because of another.

but then tell them that they can't keep doing what theyre doing, because soon it will drive all your friends apart. not all at once, but it will.

after that, [at different times] ask each one what their real reason for hating the other is. if they dont have an answer, ask them this.

will you please try and at least treat him/her with respect?

if they will do this, then maybe theyll get to know eachother better and realize that you can all be friends.

definately dont choose one over the other though!

Answer 12

tell both of them if they dont get over themselves that they will lose u as a friend because there fighting is causing u so much problems.

hope that helps!  :)

Answer 13

it sounds like they are trying to make you choose which one you are going to be friends with, as long as they are going to be hostile with each other i would suggest you only hang out with one at a time.  

Answer 14

make them pick days or get with the rest of your friends and let both of them go.

Answer 15

you and your friends need to sit them both down and tell them that you are all sick of them arguing all the time and how it's not fair for you all to be in the middle of it! i've been there so many times as in school, for 3 years i was with a really big group of people and i regret it now, i wish i got involved with smaller groups as in the group i was in, as soon as two people fell out over something stupid, the WHOLE group would start arguing and the teachers would get us in the hall and tell us to seperate, ruined quite a lot of the school life.

if you don't say something, it will NEVER get sorted so speak up and tell them how you feel. good luck :)