Friend Trouble >>> What Should I Do?

Question

OK, so I've been best friends with this girl (Kim) since kindergarten.

I'm going into grade 11 now and I have to admit we're drifting apart. She has this new friend (Becky) now that she does everything with. They're never apart. Whenever she talks to me it's about something someone said that was HILARIOUS (in her opinion) or something she did. She never asks any questions about my life or what's going on. Kim was in my science class this year and didn't speak to me AT ALL, but she spoke to every other person in the class. Her excuse? I was too far away from her seating wise.

Kim and Becky have these "movie nights" with the "hilarious" people on her bus. She has reminded me many a time that I am not invited to such events because of this bus issue. One time Becky suggested that I DO come to a movie night. I responded with "But Kim said I couldn't come" and Kim looked at me like I was the stupidest person in the world and said she was kidding...pft.

I could go on for ages. Am I overreacting? Or is Kim just one big b**** that I need to get rid of?

Also, Kim and I are pretty much friends with the same people...if something were to happen it would cause soo much drama within my group of friends and I. Kim's always been bossy and a little goody two shoes, but don't you think it's getting a little out of hand? Advice please..!

Answer 1

Sadly, friend drift apart especially in school. I know there are the few that stay in touch for years but it really is rare. I am 23 - graduated 5 years ago and I talk to very few people that I went to highschool with - none that I knew before highschool. You work, and meet people at jobs.. even losing touch with most of them when you switch careers. Im now married and that plus work takes up so much time, I dont even think about past friends much. Sounds like your friend woke up one day and decided she was too good for you. Shes not and shell learn that in her future too. YOur best bet is to just let her be and move on with your life. people like tht get joy out of the fact that they have actually hurt someone so dont let her have it. Do your thing and go your separate ways. Try not to hold a grudge because if you were meant to be friends, itll happen in the future. There are phases that young people need to go through and this may just be one for her. OR she IS just a big b****. hahah good luck sweetie

Answer 2

You should concentrate on yourself and your other friends. Try not to worry too much about what Kim and Becky are doing. You're right, Kim is being mean. Just be civil to her in group social settings and hang out with other friends if you want one-on-one time.

I know these situations can be hard, especially when you've known someone for so long, but people change. They grow apart. Maybe at some point in the future, you will be able to mend your friendship. For now, try not to set yourself up for disappointment.  

Answer 3

u have to ask your self this question

if something were to happen to me would she be there for me or not?

thats how u determine real friends from the fake ones

Answer 4

Start treating her like she treats you... Invite people over to your house for a party or something and tell her she can't come because you already invited too many people... Act like your better than her. And then after a little while ask her to come over and talk to her all night. That's what I did to my friend who was doing the same. If it doesn't work out... Start telling people you can't handle drama, but you and her don't agree with anything. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Condense, would never make it through that question alive! (or awake)

Answer 6

I would talk to her about the way you feel if she still seems not to care then shes not worthy of being your friend

Answer 7

you dont have to be freind with her at all. although she s friend with most of your friends you only need to stay away from her and make a new best friend. i know for a fact she will come and make drama to you and your friends but stay a way. another thing is dont talk much about her she s not worth your time. try to keep your head up and in school. good luck  

Answer 8

I've had that trouble before and believe me, its nerve-wrecking. I decided one day I was sick and tired of my friend ditching me to go with her other friend and told her the truth. I told her that I wasn't happy with our friendship and I was tired of being ditched all the time so she got mad and we parted ways permanently. I realized the drama we'd caused but I found a new group of friends until it cooled down. We still talk occasionally but not as often as we used to. Tell her the truth and if she doesn't like it oh well. Then when the drama comes up in the friends just go with it. don't let them chastise you for choosing your path.    

Answer 9

i see a grean eyed monster:)

Answer 10

just stop being her friend and hangout with ur other friends and maybe just to make her made ask that becky girl if she wants to hang out and if she says yes then hangout and then maybe if she is nice and u like her then be her friend