Friend going through a divorce...help!?

Question

I have a friend...we were professional friends to begin with. He recently seperated from his wife. I feel bad. They have a little girl. So I helped him get his new house set up, unpacked, painting, etc. I did not know his wife, but I do know he is very depressed about it. I went over last week to help weed the front lawn and plant some new shrubs. It was just me and him. He asked me, 'why are you doing this?' I said, so he had a nice place to move into. I would do the same for any friend or even an acquaintence if they needed the help. But I think he maybe thinks, I have ulterior motives by the way he asked me the same question...not once, but twice. I do like him as a friend. But I think he maybe thinks it's more than that or something. IDK. I don't want to just stop helping him out, as I think it would be rude and he really does need the help. On the otherhand, I don't like the feeling that he is suspicious of my motives...I don't really have any motives. What should I do?

Answer 1

Don't worry bout it, he's probably just interested in you since you seem to be a nice woman and have been helping him out.  Now he's trying to figure out if your interested in him at all.

Answer 2

Run. He wants to get laid and he's hoping he can convince you to be his unpaid w***e. Run.

Answer 3

Just speak with him honestly.  Tell him that it's bothered you that he's asked questions about your motives twice now.  Let him know that you think that he may believe you're interested in making a move on him and assure him that you don't have that in mind and want things to remain platonic.  If he continues to question you and it makes you uncomfortable, just stop hanging out.