Friend lost 22 year old daughter to cancer 6 months ago and am looking for the perfect gift to say I care!?

Question

I would like it to be very meaningful and helpful to her as she goes through a really crappy time, and I want it to be PERFECT!

Answer 1

Speaking as a mother who just lost my youngest son six months ago to cancer . . the most meaningful gifts have been books or personal letters.  I was very touched by a children's grief book that was sent to us about a month after losing our son . . the name of the book is "Tear Soup" and it is available online. I liked it because it validates your own grief and educates those who sympathize but can never really understand such a devastating loss:

Tear Soup

http://www.griefwatch.com/tearsoup/Defau...

Tear Soup: Tips for helping a friend

http://www.griefwatch.com/tearsoup/frien...

Another thought is to find out if she has any type of symbols that she is gathering in memory of her daughter . . .some parents collect angels or butterflies or dragonflies or sunflowers or other small items to hold close.

You are very kind to think of your friend . . a nice handwritten letter on beautiful stationary can also be meaningful.

Whatever you decide your friend will appreciate the effort.

Answer 2

There is nothng so tragic as a loss of a child.

I believe the fact that you are a friend is a great comfort to her. Be there for her, listen and above all be patient. We all grieve in different ways and there is no true time line.

If she is up to it - try to find things she enjoys that you could do together - I am sure your time is a wonderful gift in itself.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Create a special memory picture album with her child's pictures. Or get some special items from the family that belonged to the child and create a view box (sold at craft stores) with a picture of her. This is meaningful because you made it yourself and it has her child.

Answer 4

the first answer here is right..but maybe some flowers to brighten her house while she is feeling so dreadful.  how sad...she must be devastated.

Answer 5

Your friendship is the best gift. Trust me.