Friend of my daughter may have stolen something???

Question

My daughter has one of those Nintendo DS game systems and buys all her own games for them. As you know, the games are not cheap. Anyways, a few weeks ago, a friend of hers stayed over night. About a week later, when my daughter went to play her DS (she does not play it every day), she noticed 2 of her games were missing. I know that she is very responsible when it comes to keeping the games in the case and she did not take them anywhere. Anyways, her friend told her a few days later that she too just got one of the games that coincidentally is one of the missing ones. I do not know what to do. Our families are pretty close and we spend a lot of time together. I don't know if I should just confront the child, or if I should ask the parents? I don't know if I should just go into her room and see if I can find the games in her case? Please help. I am really hoping that she didn't steal them!

Answer 1

Call the parent up and ask her if she bought any DS games lately..If she replies, "no", then you have your answer. Unless the mother lies for the daughter,which I doubt will happen.Butif the two games that are missing turn up in the other child`s pocket, hmmmm, very fishy.If you`re very close then this should be easy.

Answer 2

I would ask the Mom - say "my daughter lost 2 of her DS games - I thought maybe when your daughter slept over the games got mixed up and accidentally got put in your daughter's case, could you check for me and see if they are in your daughter's stuff?" Your families are close - I would assume you don't want to ruin your relationship with accusations that may not even be accurate. Find someway to ask without accusing.

Answer 3

best thing to do is when you child buys these games get a dremel and dremel in her name or initials from now on to everything she owns, as for the friend I would let your daughter handle it first, maybe she can coxe it out of the friend if she did take it, kids sometimes will do that, but for future things always mark the items, i do with all my electronics, it helps!

Answer 4

contront the child with the parents with your daughter present

Answer 5

You need to talk to the parents of the child. There may be an explanation. You won't know until you ask. I'm sure the parents would want to know. Just make sure you approach it in the right manner and not trying to be condescending.

Explain that it is a hard question to ask and then just ask it. Pray that the parents will understand. It sounds likely that this girl was the culprit. If nothing else the girl will know that you know, even if she never confesses to it.

Personally, I would not have the girl around for a while and tell her your reasons why.

Answer 6

You should ask the parents. If the girls family is as close to you as you say they are, they should be concerned and understanding. They probably won't jump to conclusions and get upset that you're accusing their daughter.

All you should say is, "I don't mean to sound accusing, but where did you daughter get the ______ game? I was just wondering because *insert daughters name* recently misplaced hers and I thought that maybe she let *other girls name* borrow it and forgot?"

By making it seem like a mistake was made, as oppose to a theft, the parents will be more likely to help the situation than if you outright blame their daughter.

Good luck!

Answer 7

ask her friend's parents if they bought her any new games the past week

Answer 8

Ask her parents if they knew she had that game! If not then she probably stole it!

Good Luck!

Answer 9

bring up the topic and see what happens

Answer 10

in my opinion it really depends on the age of the child.  12yrs or younger and it is certainly a discussion for the parents, they should know how/when/where the game was purchased.  If we are talking teenagers here than a little investigation/interrogation may work (same questions: when/where/how much $? but without seeming suspicious.) of course honesty is the best policy but depending on how close your family is to hers, beware of the "how dare you accuse" attitude... it often signifies guilt.