Friend problem, need advice?

Question

Here is my issue.

3 Of my friends from school are in a fight [2 against 1]. I'm not sure exactly what happened. All I know is that both groups think that it is the other's fault. Neither group is willing to apologize, but both are waiting for an apology.

It's basically one of those things, where it's nobody's fault. It's all a big misunderstanding really. Nothing too serious. It just was made into something a lot worse than it should be...

I really want to help make things better. Because I just want all of them to be friends again. But it's a very 'delicate' subject with them... So i'm afraid if i try to intervene it will just make them angry at me too. [I've made it clear to all of them that i'm neutral and not taking sides, cuz i don't want to do that]

What should I do? Please help me.. i'm desperate!!! This is becoming a huge problem! :[

Answer 1

First off! do not go and hang out with either the "2" or  the "one" and talk behind the others backs.. which you probably already figured that out. But that's a key thing. Because that could just cause more problems. But what you need to do is let them work it out because its their fight. Just always be the better person and be nice to them. then you will end up being the example and they will thank you in the end.

Answer 2

well first of all try to find out what the reason behind their fight is and try to solve their problem by negotiating with each other...

or if  that upsets them then try reminding them that no matter what they do,they'll always remain friends...anyways glad i helped,good luck!

Answer 3

Step away from this issue, before you make it worser by trying to calm them down. Just let them settle and see how annoying it is to be fighting in school.

Answer 4

the best way to solve a problem is to calmly confront and work things out.

if theyre at each others throats theyre gonna get irritated.

set up soemthing at someones house where you guys can calmly talk and work things out.

Answer 5

convince them that apologize to each other together .   :)keep smiling.

Answer 6

just say "can we stop fighting? its nobodys fault and im not on either side." maybe they will listen

Answer 7

well, i think u shud get both sides 2gether and talk about what really happened and have both of them apologize to each other at the same time or one after the other. hope it works out, and if u get involved and both sides get mad at u, dont listen to them, you are doin the right thing by knowing your a true friend by getting involved in their problems

Answer 8

Send them all flowers from eachother!! But cover your trail, so that if that doesn't work, you are still out of the fight!! Good Luck!!

Answer 9

whats the problem. no way to solve the problem if you dont know what it is

Answer 10

don't get into it.. play with fire.. your gonna get burned..

it's sad that 1 side isn't mature enough to just give in and be like "You know what I'm sorry your right. This fight is stupid and I miss having you as a friend."

Even if the other side isn't right, IT DOESN'T MATTER 1 SIDE SHOULD APOLOGIZE ANYWAY!

good friends are hard to come by so someone needs to just apologize.

Answer 11

leave them

theyll figure it out themselves

but DONT pick any sides

Answer 12

just do what you have to do to stay out of the whole gossip scene.

let them say what they have to say about each other & don't say anything back.

make sure to let each side know you are NOT taking sides & it is not fair to YOU that they are putting you in this situation.

things will work out eventually anyways.

Answer 13

Right now, you're doing the best thing you can, which is being supportive to each set of friends and not stating your opinion either way.

These sorts of tiffs between people who are still in school tend to happen and usually work themselves out.

Try not to worry or feel like you're not doing enough to help. The more you involve yourself, the easier it will be to get entangled in the disagreement.

Answer 14

No matter what you say to anyone, there's a pretty good chance it's going to seem to someone like you're taking sides.

Just stay out of it. Things like this tend to work themselves out.

Answer 15

Ack, I hate when that happens! I get it all the time from my group of friends.

It seems like you're caught in the middle, somewhat. I don't know exactly what's going on with your friends that made them fight, but if it's a misunderstanding, explain to them in detail why it is, and why it's a stupid reason to be fighting over in the first place. Don't constantly nag them about them, because they'd give up that idea instantly for forgiving each other. If they don't want to apologize, then atleast ask for a neutral apology from them, so it's not like anyone 'gave in to the other'.

I hope this helped!

Answer 16

If you have explained to all of them that you feel this is all a misunderstanding, I don't think there is anything else you can do.  I can see how this would be a very awkward situation.  You may have to find a new set of friends until this blows over if you feel to uncomfortable.   And if they ask, tell them why you are keeping your distance.  xox

Answer 17

Ask each friend separately, "What if something happened to (insert friend's name) and we will not see her/him again can you live with that?" Then name the best attributes this friend has, like always making everyone smile, never boring, does crazy things that make you laugh etc. Try to get your friends to see how valuable they are to each other. If you can't think of any good reason (s) why these friends should be friends, then let it go. Never, not even once and not even in fun bad mouth any of the friends that are not talking to one another. Always remain neutral. Good luck

Answer 18

The Best Thing You Can Do Is Just Stay Out Of It, I Got Drug Into One Of Those And I Made It Clear Also That I Wasn't Taking Sides But Still They Both Just Assumed I Did. Its Between Them So Their Going To Have To Be The Ones Who Work It Out. If Their All Really Good Friends Then Just Give It Time And They'll Be Laughing About This Mess. But If I Was You I Wouldn't Get In The Middle Of It Or Try To Fix It Let Them Deal With It And Sort The Issue Out.

Answer 19

Honestly? It isnt your problem, so dont get involved. Explain to both sides you are going to remain friends with all of them, whilst not taking sides. Trust me it will all blow over.

Good luck (:

x

Answer 20

Stay out of it and be glad you were not involved! Sooner or later they'll probably get over it.

Answer 21

DRAMA DRAMA ALL THAT FCKING DRAMA!! Its soo immature. I jus ignore it.  

Answer 22

well you should discus the problem with both groups together and then try to see if they can resolve it and just make you don't take sides make them take care of it on their own  

Answer 23

Try to talk to one party at a time. Get a better view of both sides of the story and then come up with a compromise. If the two groups aren't ready to talk face-to-face, you communicate between them until they are "man enough" to face each other.

Answer 24

talk to both and ask what happened.   And say that fighting is not going to get anyone to apologize.  So tell both of them to apolagize to each other and that they were acting like three years olds.

Answer 25

if you have nothing to do with the fight then i would just stay neutral.  just be there for both of them and encourage them to make up.  don't get too involved or it could blow up in your face.