Friend problem i need help?

Question

i have just started secondary school (have been going for about 1 week) and had not had a very good time. the thing is, i don't know why! i didn't have any people from primary to start with and i have made a few friends but not good ones. my sister wont be there for a few weeks due to getting her tonsils taken out so that doesn't help. i get so tired when I'm not at school and for some reason i feel depressed. i am NOT getting bullied but my worst fear is i will never make any proper friends. i keep on getting lost at school and everything but i am keeping up with my work.

Did anyone else feel like this on their first week?

reassurance. please.

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Answer 1

Thats natural, the first few weeks will be a bit difficult fitting in and finding your self around.  Dont worry though, you will get used to it, and there will be other people in the same boat as you and feeling the same.  In a matter of a few more weeks most, you will find people you get along with, trust me.  There are so many people in a school, and there will definately be people you will get along with.

Maybe join some club or some kind of sports club, to meet some people of your own interest.

I think you will love your school by the end of your third week.

Answer 2

YES I T HAPPENS TO ALL OF US,,U JUST NEED TO TRY TO NOT GET ALL STRESSSED OUT OVER LITTLE PROBS,,AFTER A MONTH OR SO U WILLL NO HOW TO GET AROUND YOUR SCHOOL LIKE U LIVE  THERE,,EVERYONE HAS TROUBLE LEARNING SOMETHING NEW TILLL U GET THE HANG OF IT,,SO JUST HANG IN THERE N U WILL B READY TO SHOW YOUR SIS AROUND WEN SHE GETS THERE,,N SMILE N START SAYING  HI TO A LOT MORE PEOPLE,,MAKE LOTS OF GOOD FRIENDS  SO THAT U CAN SHARE WITH YOUR SIS,,,GOOD LUCK ,,,PEACE

Answer 3

Dont worry - the friends you make as soon as you start school are not normally the ones who will be your best friends.  After a while you'll get to know more people, and then you can realise who you get along with best, and then you'll start to find good friends.

And dont worry, everyone gets lost and feels a bit scared when they first start secondary school.  You have plenty of time to get to know your way about!

Answer 4

Yes! Everybody goes through that at some stage - be it at a new job, moving house, summercamps, etc.

Don't worry you WILL get over this, I went through it myself and I was so depressed I didn't even want to get up in the morning - but it does get better and now, I LOVE going to school.



Remember; you're definitely not alone in this. There are lots of people in their first week of secondary school right now feeling lonely and upset, as the days go by people will become more relaxed in this new enviroment and will let their guards down, so they will get friendlier.

Just stand tall, smile and hang in there - you'll be fine!

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Answer 5

Ok, what i am going to tell you may not refer to you, or have any similarity, but this is what happened to me.

When i was at primary school, i had NO friends, cause i was weird and i would only have one friend at a time (due to jealousy and stuff), and then when the time came to go to secondary school i was s%^t scared. And also, the fact that i was bullied at primary school a bit.

I was then bullied a bit more at secondary school by new people, and it was horrible.. i cried every day. I was always going to the medical room, mainly so i could go home.. One day they gave in and sent me home, as you can gather, maybe... my mum was so angry, because i had tried this stunt a thousand times before... and then i asked to move schools, i was kinda mental, for some reason.. when i got into this school i think i was really scared that the same thing was going to happen to me there as it did at my previous secondary school. It didnt, but mann how scared i was. I think i was mentally ill at this point in my life, and decided that i wanted to run away, i told my parents and my mum took me to the nurse.. I was normally dragged into school for a while and screamed the place down.. but then i was fine, made loads of friends... then i got a refferal from the nurse, saying i was depressed and stuff.. but by that time i was ok.

I think, you are either at the wrong school, you may be worried or your not used to the different lifestyle you lead at school.

Hope i helped :D

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Which, btw, you will probably have to do sometime at school.  

Answer 6

its only your first week, it takes a few to get to know people more, just keep talking to different people but dont worry everyone feels like that. You will soon feel like its your second home and make good friends. just bear with this first getting to know people faze.

Answer 7

no, usualy i made friends first day

Answer 8

Secondary school can always be daunting, I had the same problem and ended up doing silly things or making funny jokes to get recognition, the people that then pay you attention may not be the ones who become your best friends but it may get you noticed and lead to making really good friends. In terms of the doing silly things try not to get in to trouble with the teachers like I did.

Good luck

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Answer 9

Yes, that's completely normal, almost everyone finds it difficult. Hang in there - your best friends will show up just when you least expect it...

Answer 10

kinda, well at my school we had buddies and went on a teambuilding day with your class which made things alot easier.

just talk to loads of people in your classes - when you are allowed to remember!

Answer 11

Oh God! Yes, of course i did! I hated it! but at least i had a friend, don't worry you will find some good friends, even if it's a bit late