Friend problems. What can I do about them? And how can I move on?

Question

School just started but for the whole summer I've been keeping to myself. My friends aren't really my friends I feel like I'm their next target to ***** about. This particular friend, S, just uses me and doesn't treat me like a friend. She always ends up making everyone hate a person because SHE doesn't get along with them. Two years ago, she kicked one girl from the group T and I think I'm next. Because, a friend I thought I could trust H, became two faced and told S that I talked behind her back even if she did it as well. I opened up to H like two months ago and she felt the same way. I was venting out my frustrations with H. She never helps me, she just uses me and whenever I need to call her she never picks up and she always left me out on outings. Now H and S, they acknowledge me but I feel like I'm a wall. It's H's birthday and I'm invited to her party I don't know how to act around her and S. I don't want to follow H anymore like a stupid dog. How can I break away from them and find new friends? What can I do with H and S? What's you're opinion cuz I'm like confused. What would you do??

Answer 1

let me put it 2 u this way sometimes if you call sum1 your "friend" huh think twice trust me i know. i dnt hav many friends i have wat i call associates the only way i call them friends is if ive known them for over a year or 2. you should tell H and S about themselves and let them know you dnt wanna hang wit them until they get their act 2getha and stop tryna act like they cant be touched bcus she had no right to make that gurl get kicked out of sum10 she has no control of. you can alwayz find new people to be around people are jus like bf and gf theres always somebody out there for everybody just try to be the most kind and nt to sweet person and youll have plenty of "associates" like mwah!!!1

Answer 2

Girl listen here, Kick yourself from the group! Send her a card in the mail and dont go to her party, when you deal with females like this they are in friendships for what they can get out of it, they honestly could careless about you. Trust me i used to be an H lol but Thank God i have changed. But speaking from experience i have been both in your position and in H's, she doesnt like you and S is more interested in following H then hwo you feel, she wants to look good to H so she is willing to betray the little scrap of friendship you have. My advice? Lose them both, How do you do that? be kind to them but refuse to hang out with them, and if you dont get invited to hang out with them then problem solved. Dont call them when you have a problem, start to space urself, dont eat with them at lunch just dont hang with them. Put them into your aquintance status where you only give hi and byes. Whatever you do dont hang out with them. To find new friends you dont have to look, school just started and there are slews of new people in the skewl girl sit at a new table at lunch complment someone on there shoes and then ask them how they like there classes. Get there number and then you just got a new friend. In order to make new friends you have to show yourself friendly. I also suggest you join a christian club, dude it is so easy to make friends when you are around christians because most true christians are amazing friends. Dont lose heart there maybe a week or so where you feel like you dont have any friends at all but it will get better girl. Pray for H and S to get it together, and remember there is nothing wrong with praying for new friends. I did and i ended up winning the talent show in Highschool there wasnt one person in my school who didnt know my name. It was because i was kind and funny and i showed myself to be a true friend to others. Be a good friend and you will attract good friends :) be blessed  

Answer 3

I think that maybe this girl H is confused about how she is feeling towards S and doesn't want to lose a so called friend. Since you are wanting to find new friends I would suggest thinking about who you are and the things that you like and go from there. Friends are easy to make you just have to be open to making them. You do not need  friends you have to worry about keeping.

Answer 4

i dont blame you for being confused,

this is a very confusing situation.

im 15, and i used to have this problem pretty much constantly.

now i sorted myself out and im much happier.

first of all you have just got to think about what your alternitive options are.

if you are worried about this party, then dont go!

arrange a sleepover (or slumber party) with some other friends,

what about T?

as she was in this situation a couple of years ago,

maybe she will be able to help you?

dont just break away suddenly, do it slowly and gradually get to know some other people.

as for H, she sounds like a back stabbing *****, and S sounds like a self centered ******. it sounds like you could do MUCH better.

im not gonna tell you to talk to a teacher or your mom, this was the advice that i always used to get and it used to **** me off. if H said that she too didnt like this S, then maybe she is just scared of being kicked out the group too. maybe try and talk to her about it, and tell her how you feel and how she made you feel.

at least now you should know who your true friends are, and its up to you to make sure thatin future you dont get walked over and bullied like you have been.

good luck hun, and best wishes. i'll be thinking about you! x millie x*x

Answer 5

I was in your same position for five years.  I bet your thinking that theres no solution.  But there is.  

The group of girls that I hung out with were awful.  Always hanging out with each other without inviting me, doing something mean to me, me being mad, then them getting mad at me cuz I was mad.  Ridiculous stuff like that!  It gets hard.  I can't even count the number of days I'd come crying home to my mom about them.  It was really hard, cuz at one point, they were worse than ever.  I sat with them at lunch, but they NEVER talked to me.  At that point, I had had enough.  I had been there little puppy dog for 5 years and I was done being used by them.  So on the first day of the new school year, I took a stand.  After five years of sitting at there lunch table, I sat somewhere else.  Yes, it was hard, becuase I'd take occasional glances at there table, and they would whisper to each other and snicker.  It was very hard, but at the same time, I was soo proud of myself for sticking up for myself.

Now, I'm not sure how old you are, but if your still in school, and you usually partner up with them for projects or sit with them at lunch, well you shouldnt.  You must have some other friends, so maybe ask to be partners with them.  ONce you get to know each other better, ask to sit with them at lunch. She will say yes, im almost 100% positive.  And then from that day on, never sit with the mean girls again.  They will realize that they were mean to you and then regret it.  You seem so nice, and theyll realize that.  Don't worry.  It'll all get better.

I made some of the best friends I could ever have by switchng lunch tables.  That small little move changed my friends and my life really.

Hope things work out.  Good luck.

-Courtney

Answer 6

Wow, you seem to have a problem here. This kind of sounds like a T.V. show, but it's real life. Well S, seems to be like a jerk. So I would just ignore her. If she is your "true" friend, then she will come back to you, and ask you for forgiveness. If she just comes up to you and is like, "what's your problem?" Then just say, you. And walk away. Since, you know how to be friendly and these girls obviously don't, you're the bigger person in this situation. And H. Hmm...I suggest that you say you can't go to your party. I don't really know how you can move on, but just by moving on. Haha. But, you can try to meet new people. I used to be very shy, and now if I see someone who looks friendly, I just say, "Hey my name is O, what's your name?" And then I talk to them and we get along. Sometimes. Well good luck with this whole situation. I hope I have helped, and have a great day!

Answer 7

Stop talking to them.Those aren't friends,their the B word.At the end they end up with nothing.Move on.