Friend trouble , i don't know what to do :(?

Question

Okay. So I have friends who wear Abercrombie and fitch and hollister and stuff, and we get along great (sometimes) but, I wear skate shoes and skinny jeans and listen to alternative rock and stuff, which makes me feel out of place when I hang out with them. Sometimes, one of them even tells me "i'm weird" or "i'm stupid" and stuff like that.

So I'm kind of torn. I love my friends (most of the time) and I want to still hang out with them, but I don't see how it would be possible, because I don't share very many common intrests with them, and it seems like we never have anything to talk about except gossip (which I don't like)

So, I kind of want to hang out with people who like the same things I do, but most of the kids that like the stuff that I do are perceived as "punks" or "emos" and I hate labels, but thats just how cruel the people at my highschool are. Also, some of them do drugs and drink and have s*x and stuff, which I'm not into. But, I would probably have alot more fun with them than i do with my other friends.

So I don't know what to do, Stay with my old friends and feel like an outcast, or Get new ones, that do stuff that I don't agree with and get labeled.

If you have any expirences like this, or any advice at all, please help me.

School starts in 2 weeks and I need to have it figured out by then

thanks a ton yahoo-ers :)

Answer 1

Well, it sounds like your current friends are probably no better than those friends that share common interests. This is like a no win situation. Usually when something like that happens to me, I would just be a bit wimpy and just stay with those crappy friends. It seems like your current friends don't really accept the way that you look, and that's just wrong. It's not about the outside, it's about the inside that really matters. Maybe you should just stick with your current friends, but make new ones too, like some people who you talk to and get along with pretty well. Then gradually hang out with them more and then do stuff together.

Answer 2

if they are ur friends,they will accept you for who you are,not ur interests.they wouldnt call you stupid or wierd if they were really ur friends. im sure theres other people at ur school feeling like u,maybe you can make friends with them. or you can find someone that also wears skinny hjeans and is in ur classes. but overall i think u shouldnt stay with ur "friends" because if they make u feel bad,u should let them insult you.

hope i helped! xD

Answer 3

Sounds like your currents friends won't be any different from any new ones. I've went through this just with two different groups. Band Geeks vs. the.. well my group doesn't have a name we are just kinda there doing our own thing.

Here is what i suggest Start to drift away from your current friends who what people at my school would probably call "popular" and just start to hang out with some new people. But here is the tricky part stay away from the extremes of your interests ( as you put it the major punk and emos... or the ones you know are doing drugs and have s*x and that sorta thing) there are people out there who like that kind of stuff but totally don't look it.

Another trick is play all your interests not just one of two but all.

I found one really close friend through my small interest in dogs and i meet up with her and we turned out to have a lot of the same views and interests that i would have never guessed she had.

And as for labels, its just what people do; just like gossip or rumors there isn't really anyway to avoid them and if you look at it you already have a label and that label is what ever your friends are.

So to sum it up short, just try hanging out with some new people, play out all your interests, and stay away from the extremes if not simply because you may eventually  end up doing some of the stuff you completely disagree with.

Anyway good Luck!

Edit: I read the above ones and Yes you should try talk to your current friends and let them know how you feel but i have have a feeling they arn't going to change or they will change for a short time and go back ( my older friends tried incliding me more but truth be told we had nothing in common any more and there for nothing to talk about).

Answer 4

they aren't real friends if they're calling you stupid or constantly telling you to shut up. you can find new friends and so what if you get labeled. what other people say or think about you is an opinion. but if they label you or talk behind your back it just means  that they don't have the courage to say it to  your face. oh and not all emo or punk people do drugs and drink so don't stereo-type some one before you get to know them because you're probably wrong.

Answer 5

maybe you should consider trying to talk to your Hollister/Abercrombie friends about it. i bet if they knew how torn you felt, they'd turn out to be pretty supportive. after all, you're just as much their friend as you are theirs.

and as for the Punk/Emo group...

nothing should stop you from being friends with the people you want to befriend--even the labeling. if they do things you're not into, just excuse yourself from those activities.

but it seems to me like you already have the answer cut out for you.

you've gotta do what you want to do.

don't feel like you have to answer to anyone but yourself.

hope everything works out for the best :)  

Answer 6

Well their your friends they shouldn't be making fun of u or judging u just because u dressdifferent and listen to different music. They should just continue to be your friend and stop trying to change who u truly are. Because if their trying 2 change u now. How did they begin to lik u in the 1st place??? Huh... But 2 me I wouldn't make fun of my friend just because she wanted to express her personality....!!