Friend troubles please give advice?

Question

ok im a 24 year old male single father and my best friend is an 18 year old female. i see her like a little sister and i try my best to be there for her as much as i can be. she is currently seeing a 26 year old guy that is a on the road truck driver and he is only home on the weekends. i know she isnt as happy as she can be while with him, and here reciently she has been trying to get with this 24 year old guy that is a total mooch. he has no job, car, money, lives in a really trashy trailer park, etc. etc. i have seen him personally take approx. 5 or 6 pills that wernt perscribed to him at a local bar where i was playing pool. when i asked my friend about it she told me that he does take pills and now she is taking them with him and also buying them for him as well. in the last 2 weeks she has almost killed herself 2 times from being depressed (could it be the pills she is taking i think they are called roxys) i have tried to talk to her but it seems i cant get through to her at all. she just tells me to mind my own fn busisness i really dont want to see her walk down the wrong path but at the same time she is stressing me out to a new level in which i have never been stressed before. i can hardly eat, sleep, constantly worrying about her and now it has got to the point where im coming home and going right to bed and hardly spending time with my little man. im to the point where im about to just snap and tell her if she is going to do this i dont want to talk to her anymore. i cant take it. should i just forget about her? or should i stay by her side and possibly ruin the life that i have made for me and my son please give me advice

Answer 1

TALK TO A THERAPIST

Answer 2

This is serious. Get her to see a pyshciatrist fast. My mums friend did suicide because of this type problem. Don't let her out of your sight because this could be fatal. Force her to a psych for all I care, she will thank you later.

Please get her help and God bless her hope everything works out.

Answer 3

well like they say...

Only the junkie can help themselves.

but whatever you do...dont turn your back on her. she really needs you right now but i dont think she realises that...i think you should just have her stay at your house now...keep an eye on her...but dont baby sit her...just help her get her life back on track, like a big brother =]

talk to her...tell her what you think...what you want for her...try to make her understand youre just worried about her and want to help her...im pretty sure youre capable of handling both youre friend and youre son...its not like shes a child too...

i would like to commend you on your efforts with your son...good man...try moving her in with you at first...but if it doesnt work out then just break off the friendship and move on with your life as a father and role model to your son...

wish you all the best

God bless.

Answer 4

She is using drugs and wont stop until she wants to. At this point all you are doing is wasting your efforts on her. Please dont ignore your little boy for someone that doesnt want help.  Who is taking care of him while you are in bed?

Answer 5

don'tdesert her in her time of need, wether or not she shows it she needs you. try to get her to see a shrink or try to get her to leave the trashy guys she goes out with. but dont let the situation take you down, dont ruin your son's life. get her to go to rehan wether she wants to or not.dont let her ruin her life. she needs you.

Answer 6

You've done all you can for her. You have to move on. What you do now will affect the rest of your son's life, she already lived part of hers and it is her decision.  

Answer 7

I am very sorry you are in this situation, one, especially since you have a son. In my point of view, you are a loving father that really does not want your son to be hurt in any way or come into any dangerous situations and with her, it sound like it could become one. I think you might want to try to sit down and have a one-on-one talk with her about the problems and what is bugging you and then if she still tells you to "f off" then I would do just that. Leave her to ruin her life; you're being a great friend just trying to talk her out of bad things, but you can't force someone to change. I think you've pretty much done all that you can. So just have a serious, calm and quiet talk with her and if she doesn't come around, get you and your son out of there! I hope I helped! Good luck!