Friend wants to jump MY horse?

Question

well i havent quite started jumping yet. my friend said she wanted to.. i seriously dont want her to. i have someone else to! and he knows her! like any horse he tests the riders, and she expects to just get on him and jump! okay im not trying to be rude but i dont want her to ever ride him. i dont know why, i just dont. what do i tell her!?

she says she has a horse to everyone, but its just a school horse!

why cant she ride her!?

Answer 1

Its your horse. If you don't feel comfortable with her riding her then don't let her. Your horse your rules

Answer 2

It's your horse, so it's your choice who rides him.  So, just tell her that you're not comfortable with her riding him and suggest maybe she ride the school horse.

Answer 3

Two things to say:

1.) If you were really her friend, you'd at least let her ride your horse once. Sharing is caring.

2.) If you really dont want her to ride your horse, just tell her. If she was really your friend, she'd understand.

My opinion...

To me, you are being a bit selfish about your horse. I dont mean to be rude, at all, but if you were really her friend, you'd let her at least get a ride. But I understand where you're coming from, sometimes I dont want to share things either, but thats b/c I'm always worried that they'll be better than me *evil laugh* just kidding.

Anyways, I hope I helped in some way :)

[Edit] But if your friend isnt experienced enough, and you feel that a bad rider on a green (in training) horse is an accident waiting to happen, then I completely understand you. You can easily just tell her that you dont feel that she's experienced enough, and if she was really your friend, she'd completely understand.

[EditEdit] But if you just dont want your friend to ride your horse b/c of selfish reasons, then that's different...

Either way, I wish for the best.

Answer 4

haha yess another bit*ch haha and its totaly ok i teach this one girl at my lessons and she acts like she knows evertyhing when in realty shes my worst student...i am almost going to to tell her that i am no longer i feel i should give you lessons haha dont worrry its your horse you dont want her riding it so tell her to shew like a fly go away haha

Answer 5

she wants to ride your horse, since its YOUR horse, and she wants it too seem likes shes better then you.

just tell her your horse is in training, and is VERY particular about who can ride him, let alone jump him.. and you already having people working on getting him better so that more people can ride, but for the time being only you and the other rider can ride him.

It'll make her leave you alone for a while, and eventually she'll just forget about it.

Answer 6

tell her you don't want her jumping your horse because you want your horse to learn your jumping style, not hers.  Horses react differently to different riders and you want your horse to understand your way of riding, not hers.  You may have an experienced person ride him over jumps because he can train him properly and keep him sensitive to your wants and style.  

good luck

I hate it when people think they can ride your horse better than you.

Answer 7

Say u dont think its a good idea

its your horses

tell her you already have someone to jump him and that he is a little harder to ride than a school horse

Answer 8

If you dont want your friend to ride your horse just tell her. Its ok if you dont want someone to ride your horse, my friend is the same way. She wont let anyone ride her horse just because she loves him so much and doesnt want anyone to ruin the bond that they have together.

Its not mean if you dont want anyone else to ride your horse cause i can understand, just tell your friend that you dont want anyone else to ride her, but you.  

Answer 9

You don't need a reason not to let her ride your horse. If your horse hasn't jumped yet, and this person wants to jump him, they BOTH may get hurt.

Just tell her no. If she doesn't understand, tough on her. She's not a friend you need anyway.

It's your horse. If you don't want her to ride, you don't have to let her.

Answer 10

I agree with the first person, but sounds like someone is jealous, or worried she will be better than you

Answer 11

DO NOT LET HER RIDE

If its your gut feeling don't. Your horse sounds green, and your friend sounds like she has limited experience with unschooled horses. Personally I wouldn't let her ride.

Answer 12

It's your horse - just tell her no.  You don't owe anyone an explanation.

Answer 13

I have the same problem there is a girl at my abrn who wanted to ride my horse for a little bit. at first i didnt want her to but then she said i could ride her 17 hand thourghbred and i always wanted to ride him so i agreed lol. It was so much different from my 15 hand horse lol. any ways you have to do what you want, if you want a explanation tell her you just dont feel comferatable with some one else rideing your horse.

Answer 14

well wat i woul do is tell her that the horse is psycho if u dont kno how to handle it. i kno u shouldnt really lie but if he does test the rider its kinda half true.

Answer 15

Just tell her straight up you don't want her riding your horse. If she wants a reason simply tell her that your horse likes to test and you don't want to be responsible for anything to happen to a friend.

Good Luck

Answer 16

Ok i don understand if it is a school horse or your horse, anyway i have a plan for both;

School Horse: Tell her it isnt your horse exactly and that she does not have permission to ride it, especially when there are more experienced riders then her that could test the horse over jumps first aka You rather than her. I kow what your feeling that you dont want to lose a friend but technically if you haven't started jumping then she shouldn't either better rider or not. Your the one the horse has experienced with not her, so the horse is better off jumping with you =)

Your Horse: Tell her the horse is in jumping "Training" and that your even unsure of jumping it and might be considering someone else taking him over the jumps first because he has a streak to be naughty on the odd occassion. Works all the time lol. Also if you ride it do a fake gallop on it and slow it down but fall off, thats what i did, scared the c**p out of my friend lol, but that really depends if she is a stuck up b*tch, If she is stuck up dont do it or she'll make fun of you, if she gets scared easily then go ahead i did it with my friend lol =P

With the Not wanting her to ride ever: Ohh Goshh i use to have the same problem bahaha! I know exactly what it is, it is the emotion of you feeling disconnected with the horse because a friend is riding it instead of you and you dont want to see another rider on the horse. Also if she likes riding the horse, you dont want her to ride it because she will jsu turn up and start riding the horse during your ride because she has ridden the horse and knows the horse. =) Dont worry i know *Thumbs up*

Anyways Goodluck But overall depending on what person she is just say it to her face or perhaps another time.

Goodluck

Answer 17

HAHA my friends are like that too! they think they can just come out to the stables and get on a horse and ride into the sunset like in the movies. Little do they know, if they even get on the horse they freak out and the horse knows they dnt know how to ride so he takes complete advantage of them. all I say is I told you so! :) Let them learn jus make sure they are safe and wear protective gear!  

Answer 18

You have every right to say no.

Question though... does she know how to ride? or does she just think she can get on and go?

In my opinion, it sounds like jealousy (completely normal) I am getting a horse soon and she has to be put in lessons to lower the board price. I know I will get jealous if i see others riding her, but unfortunately, I have no choice.

There is no explanation NEEDEDm but in my opinion, it would be nice to explain why... she is your friend afterall. Explain to her that your horse is very special to you, and you work very hard to get where your at. Especially if the horse doesn't really know how to jump, then explain that a horse needs to be taught. Explain it to her nicely, like a friend should and Im sure everything will be fine.

Jealousy is normal with your horse- I have riden the same horse for 3 years, he's not minem but I use him all summer for pony cub, I ride him the most, take him to shows and give him full grooming (as opposed to those quick brushes after you used to do when you were just starting out in lessons per say), so I definitly get jealous, and I don't even own him, just lease.;)

Answer 19

LOL I used to be just like you! My friend who owns a horse wanted to gallop mine and my aunties TB and I said no straight away.

1. Because my aunt would need to know.

2. Because we'd have to come out with her.

3. Because she was still in training and I didn't want her

a)messing it up

b)I was sorta jealous, not in case she was better than me but because it's my horse and her horse was just across the aisle of stables(livery yard)

Just say no, no explanation needed.

Charlotte x

Answer 20

Just tell her no. You have a right to decide who rides YOUR horse.

Think about it, what if she got hurt? Then you would be liable since its your horse.

That's not to say never let people on your horses. I have 3 horses so let friends ride all the time. But the point is, its up to you. So you do what you're comfortable with. Also remember that jumping is more dangerous than just riding, so the risk of her hurting herself would be reason enough to say no.

David

http://gentlenaturalhorseman.blogspot.co...

Answer 21

Just say no, no explanation needed, but I know it's uncomfortable. I don't let anyone ride my horse either. At our farm, they have cookouts and most of them pull their horses out and pass them around. Mine stays in the barn. .."course, I don't ask to ride their horse either.