Friends With a Child Molestor?

Question

I know of a girl that is friends with a man who was accused of child molestation and abuse. She is friends with him too, and has a child, and invites him over constantly.

Can you please tell me what kind of person she is, and what kind of sickeness she may have for being friends with this man?

She also invited other children over for playdates with her son.

Serious Q that needs to be answered.

When she set me up with him for a date, I didn't know who he was or what he did ( I found out later). I ran away from her home as soon as I found out he was one, and when she tried to set me up with him. What are your thoughts???

Answer 1

Maybe she is a child molester as well. I do not know why anyone especially a mother would do this. It is very sad and I think you should tell her exactly what you think of the position she is putting her child and others in.

Answer 2

Maybe she was molested herself>?  maybe she is an incredibly lonely woman with such low self esteem, she would be friends with a murder if it meant attention,.

As far as the child, I do agree Child services needs to be notified AFTER you have checked to see whether he is a Registered Child Molester.

She also needs to make sure her son is aware of not letting ANYONE touch him inappropriately and don't leave him with the friends.

As for the other children coming over for playdates.  Let them know!!!!!!

PLEASE DON'T JUDGE HER ABILITY OF BEING A PARENT,  MAYBE SHE DOESN'T KNOW ANYBETTER.

Answer 3

Mabye you should just call your police and look up his history mabye its not even true

Answer 4

She probably is a bit nuts, but might be experiencing a lot of denial as well. You should consider calling Child Welfare since she is putting her son and other children in danger.

Answer 5

I would never be friends with a child molestor.

Answer 6

Do you know what his offense was?

If he was nineteen and had s*x with a sixteen year old then he would be registered as a s*x offender but there would be no reason to believe that he would be actively searching for children to molest. However if he is a registered s*x offender who has molested small children or adolescents in the past, then chances are that by hanging out with children, he is violating the s*x offender statute and you can report him to local authorities.

Answer 7

If i were you i'd want to smack her. I do want to smack her.

Answer 8

My thought is she is nuts!! What is going through her mind to make her be friends with a child molestor?!! It would be different if she didn't know but she is crazy!!

Answer 9

If this person is a convicted molester, you should report it to the police.  Do not waste your time being an amateur psychologist.

You do not say how old the "girl" is.  You also say that the man was accused, you do not say convicted.  A person can be falsely accused of something.  Still it would be a good idea to talk to the police.

Answer 10

i agree with amber why would anybody be friends with one???

Answer 11

You conveyed that you didn't know "what he was or what he did" and that you "found out later, but that you "ran away from his home as soon as you found out". These sentences contradict eachother. Either you knew when you went to his house, or you didn't know and found out, somehow, at a later time, or you found out while you were at his house. Which is it?

Anyhow, I find this solution an easy one.

I have a very good friend, myself. She and I have been friends since we were six years old. If I found out through some means that she was socializing with a child molester, the contact with her would be placed on hold. I'd temporarily sever all ties with her until the guy made an exit and I wouldn't call her until there was evidence of this. She'd need to convince me.

Also, I knew a child molester when I was in high school, but didn't find out after graduation when I was working at the local police department. Once I found out such information, I severed all contact with him immediately. He ended up emigrating back to his country of origin at a later date for reasons that I am unaware. Anyhow, his offense was that he molested his younger sister who has Downs Syndrome.

Such examples are everywhere. You need to take it upon yourself to research every person with whom you are in contact. If you don't and end up finding out the hard way, it is partly your fault because of the vehicle that is provided to the public through the internet and your government, police department, etc. Understandably so are instances that are beyond a person's control, but this is usually going to be evidenced by a person's behavior. If you are skilled at body language and certain behaviors and speech content, you'd be able to pick up on some red flags and, at that point, it would be in your best interest AND your responsibility to exercise good judgement.

Cheers.

Answer 12

This makes me sick!!

Does anyone really need to tell you what kind of person she is or what kind of mother? Didn't think so!!

EDIT** I understand exactly what you are saying but.............How can anyone ever figure out what is going on in this women's brain when it is apparent that she doesn't have one! If I were you I would stay as far away as possible and tell the parents of the children she has over this situation. I am sure that most of them will be very appreciative that YOU were smart enough to have the well being of their children in mind.