Friends and trust issues?

Question

I have a great family life - better than most people I know. However, I'm still VERY insecure, reserved and guarded.

I've never had much luck with friends. When I was younger, I felt invisible and never fit in with anybody. And the friends I did have seemed to abandon me because I wasn't good enough. Now that I'm older, I still seem to not fit in with many people and friends that I was close with took advantage of my good nature and made me feel guilty for being the way I am.

Could those incidents with my friends cause me to have trust issues, even though I come from a supportive wonderful family?

Answer 1

One of the worst things that could have happened to our society, from the 90's, is the whole 'pop psychology' culture.  We 'diagnose' our behaviours as issues or disorders...and spend more time analyzing ourselves than getting on with our lives.

Forget the whole 'trust issue' thing, and get out there and on with your life.  People gravitate towards others who worry less about themselves and seem to enjoy their lives.  Difficult to give off that impression if you are concerned about the self analysis of your root causes!

Answer 2

yes that could be the case, or you could just be a very cautious person. believe me sometimes its better to have no friends than to have a bunch of friends. in the real world, people u think r ur friends aren't really at all. just do the best you can and dont try to force anything. b happy.