Friends - help please?

Question

Okay, I'm very self conscious, I'm extremely shy and out of a miracle I have barley 2 friends that don't treat me with respect. The other day I was at someone's house with 3 other friends. They all skate and I don't. When they invited me I was so happy, but later on without even realizing it, one of my friends said aloud: Isn't it funny how we only wanted [my name] so he can do something on the computer for us? They all disrespect me and I would look for new friends if I wasn't so scared. I had 10 minutes alone with a friend and he wanted to go home even though he was being picked up in 10 minutes, because he didn't want to be with me. All 3 of them get along perfectly and seem like best friends and I'm just the one there that is not wanted. We were all on the couch and one of my friends invited all the others except me to go somewhere today. I mean he could of done it when I was out of the room, but I asked and they really didn't want me. I asked someone for help and he told me that frankly I was being a cry baby and that I should act tough. I'm not that kinda guy though, and I wanted to ask for advice on what I should do. Thx

Answer 1

My heart really goes out for people like yourself, actually, i used to be kinda in the same situation.

My advice for you would be to get involved!

When i say this, i mean that you should get active in clubs and activities that you enjoy and like. You will meet others with the same interests and you will become good friends with them..

I also encourage you to get involved with a GOOD Church youth group who has an incredible youth pastor. I know my Church / Pastor has helped me through ALOT.

It may take some time at first, but try to be pro ACTIVE. Don't look down on yourself and walk through the mall / school / down the street. Look with your head up and Chin held high.. Self motivation really does work wonders..

Also, i urge you to pray about all this.. God doesn't want you to have friends like those. Those so called "friends" seem horrible.

I urge you to just leave them completely.. it really is them who are missing out..

You seem like a great guy once someone gets to know you.

I know you'll do great.

So Good luck, and God Bless.

Answer 2

Hey, don't let people treat you like that! You should definitely learn to stand up for yourself; stop being a pushover. People start feeling that you have no personality, and they can say whatever the heck they want to, to your face, and you'll just take it lying down. Show them that you DO have some dignity. Their remarks are so rude, no one deserves 'friends' like that. Why do you feel that people don't want to be around you? If you always think you're a 'burden' and everyone hates you, then others will feel the same. Voice your opinion; when someone makes a rude remark, say something witty back, like 'OMG, isn't it funny that all people who know how to skate are morons when it comes to computers!' xD See, they'll at least think you have a mind of your own, rather than if you just sit back and let them bully you.

Also, just ditch these people. They seem like no goods. Go make some new friends, it's better to have books and animals as friends, rather than such kinds of people! All the best. :)

Answer 3

Poor you. YOu really need to find some other friends however hard it seems. Can you not join some clubs or something?