Friends i want your suggestions?

Question

now in days i am very confused because there is in my family a verbel war few days ago between my parents and my uncle,aunty by misundersting, my uncle things that my parents dont like them and they dont live with them.so they use bad words for my parents, and for this reason i also dont talk with my uncle and aunt. because i know it`s not true. my parents like them and they want to live with them. and now my uncle and aunty also feel it that they were wrong, and they are talking with my parents, but i am still with my silent i am not talking with them.please tell me am i right or not? i am waiting for your suggestions.

Answer 1

be with ur parents and help them not to get depressed....no uncle aunty is gonna be there for u for the whole life....its ur parents who can be there always....its their tough time, so better be a support for them....if the other family doesnot want to stay with ur parents, then better they should separate cozzz it doesnot make any affect if only one side is ready for something and the other is not....better talk to ur parents abt that and tell them that they can't compell someone to be there with them always

Answer 2

no probs go ahead yaar&speak 2 them.u shud do what u feel is true.

u shudnt b affected by mere quarrelling &stuffslike that after all they r ur aunt &uncle.try 2 explain the whole situation.

Answer 3

Hi nirmal..... I understand your position. I think from your questions your family problems are solved.... Your parents also speak with your uncle means there is no doubt about u.... U can speak to your uncle freely... That is good for future.....

Answer 4

It is your personal choice whether you want to talk to your uncle and aunt or not.

If you really hate them for what they did to your parents and you think you cannot forgive them for that at all, then you should listen to what your head says and do accordingly i.e. not talk to them

But in an ideal situation, it is best to talk to them (atleast a little) so that  your relationship with them improves over time. This will also help in improving your parents relationship with them. Give it a try. Start talking to them little by little and see where it leads you.  

Answer 5

just TALK to them..... if ur parents r doin thn do it coz u strtd deeling this way coz of ur parents only...... so just nd say hello or whatever to ur uncle or aunt

Answer 6

I'm confused too.. anyways.. u just can't stay there and keep quiet.. Explain it to them.. defend your parents..

Answer 7

I have the same problem with my aunt. See how they act towards you.

If they are nice, why not be nice to them? This will bring more peace.

Answer 8

Every person has to face this situation.When we listen about anything then we will creat that type of mindset that he is bad or good.I think in this case ur mindset has become that ur uncle is a bad person as they have used bad words for ur parents.But as the time goes u will know more about him and your mindset will be change for him.

SO WAIT ,WAIT UNTIL THAT SITUATUION.

Answer 9

SO basically to sum it up...parents and aunts&uncle were arguing but now they are okay. You still don't like uncle and aunt too much because of what they said about your parents, right?

Okay, first of all, the important thing to remember is that the problem has now been resolved when your relatives admitted they were wrong. I could understand why you are mad, and of course I would feel upset too if someone said stuff about my parents, but I think enough time has passed and you should let it go. Your parents and relatives arguing, is similar to if you and your cousin were arguing. You will say bad things about them cause you're pissed off and living in the heat of the moment, just like your relatives. Also, talk to your parents about it. Let them know how you feel, why you feel that way and ask them what to do, and follow their advice. But don't hold a grudge over the matter. be angry, then let it go. Forgive, but don't forget.