Friends in marriage?

Question

Do you think its right, that when your married you should never see friends on your own without your wife?

Answer 1

i think you should be allowed to do whatever makes you happy...

my wife regularly meets her friends (male and female) without me tagging along... her friends, her time.. :D

Answer 2

Not at clubs, but golfing, sports games, etc.. should be okay, as long as they do not interfere with your obligations to your marriage.

Answer 3

If that is what they both believe sure it just depends on what type of couple they are.

Answer 4

Of course not, a good marriage needs both parties to be happy.  Keep your partner and friends on an even keel and you should have the best of both worlds.

Answer 5

I think u still need time apart in order to enjoy each other's company.  But don't let her catch u lying about whatever u and ur friends are doing b/c that will cause her to want to be with u every single time ur with them.

make sense?? sorry, I'm tired...

Answer 6

NO!  Everyone needs time out, so long as you are being respectful to her, being faithful and be home when you tell her you are going to be!

Answer 7

Well, if you take the vows seriously...."...and forsaking all others...."  your spouse becomes your life.

My wife hit me with that one a few years ago; I told her, " okay, then I have to forsake my (our) children also, and you have to forsake your parents..."

The vows don't say SOME others, they say ALL others.

Answer 8

If I were married and my husband banned me from seeing my friends, I would soon be heading for the divorce courts. Whilst me and my boyfriend are in the most loving relationship, we both have our own friends - sometimes we do things altogther, sometimes we do things seperately. Its healthy to have some independance in a relationship, trust me.

Answer 9

What?  

I believe it is healthy to have friendships outside of marriage.  And if you want to see those friends without your partner around, I believe that its totally fine just so long as there is trust.  

Answer 10

If you have a stable marriage seeing friends alone is not an issue. Seeing opposite s*x friends can become an issue particularly if you have a reputation from the past. And seeing "those" friends when they are having a relationship issue is really dangerous. Maybe you need to sit down and talk to your partner as it looks like this is an issue in your relationship otherwise you would not have raised the question.

Answer 11

not at all. you need some 'me' time. you're married not surgically attached.  

Answer 12

No, that is not right at all.  Women, and men, who put that kind of restrictions on their partners are dead wrong.  Nobody "owns" us... marriage does not mean you cannot have your friends.  Any person who does that to another is very immature and definitely should NOT be married.

Answer 13

h**l no !

Answer 14

I think to feel you have to give up your friends for your wife is a sure fire route to the divorce courts...

Answer 15

NO My wife and I have our friends. Both male and female. We trust each other and our friends as well.  

Answer 16

No i think that both should retain keeping and maintaining your own identity and individualism. Trust and being able to trust one another is one of the main ingredients in marriage!! Unless you have given either or a reason not to trust then whats the problem, besides shouldn't there be friendship shared between wife and husband, with no domineering type behavioral trips. Honesty is the best way to go, hiding the visits with friends can only heighten insecurity. Of course then the foundation is laid for fights, the need to control the other, mistrust etc.