Friends with a older man...?

Question

I been married for almost a year. Been with my husband for almost two years. Now my personality is quite open. I will talk to anyone no matter if its male, female, old or young. Would you think it was weird if you knew I was friends with a older man or do you think its wrong. I worked with this guy a while ago and now I work at another place next to it. So I will come by and talk to the ppl that work there. There is this one guy, named Mike, that dose like me but he knows and understands that I am married and wouldn't dream of getting in between that . He has told me he has feelings for me and cares about me. But it stays like that. We have something in common which is he suffers from depression and so do I but I never went for help with it. So we will talk about that. My husband don't really understand about it. He just says that I am fine and not to worry about it. But thats because he just hasn't been through anything real hard and painful like I have.So I will open up about that with Mike. Some ppl think just because he is a man that there is something going on with us because we talk a lot. My husband don't care as long as there is nothing to be care about. I told my husband I went out with him to just get a beer and watch the Olympics because he was having guys night out and I really don't have any girls to hang out with. So I went and hanged out with who ever was free and it was Mike. What are your thoughts? Not really sure if this is a question for me. I guess I just wanted to see someone else's opinion. Thanks.

Answer 1

It's fine to be friends with an older man. It's NOT fine to be friends with him after he told you he has feelings for you, even if you think nothing would ever happen.  

Answer 2

My ex wife suffered from depression and so did her male friend. The combination of the two of them having a deep understanding of the problem lead to an affair which destoyed my whole family. Keep away from this man and try to get your husband to talk to you. Your friend is a nice guy but your husband comes first and he also has to listen to you. My ex girlfriend also did the same..! I am a good listener by the way but could not really understand depression because I am lucky to have not suffered it.

Good luck

Answer 3

As long as your hubby can be friends with this guy, along with you being friends with him...NO PROBLEM. But, by the fact that this guy has confessed feelings for you....YOU REALLY SHOULD FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO TALK TO. HE CAN ONLY HAVE HIS FEELINGS GROW MORE AND MORE, THE CLOSER YOU TWO GET. IT IS COMMON SENSE. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT, COMMON SENSE.  

Answer 4

i'm wishing i was that guy right now.  

Answer 5

How much older?

Is he like creepy older?  

Answer 6

maybe you should see a theripist instead.  the problem is that this old man has feelings other than friendship for you, I would stay away.

Answer 7

if u keep doin this hunny your hubby will get suspicious no matter how much he supresses it.

Answer 8

You are very, very lucky that your husband is understanding of your friendship.  Most spouses would not be.

I will admit - the situation LOOKS funny to anyone who doesn't know.  But as long as there is nothing inappropriate going on and your husband is OK with it, then it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.