Friends with benefits, does that make a woman a w***e?

Question

My coworker is always asking me for advice, because she's seeing this guy and sleeping with him quite often, but she is so called "protecting her heart" so she says she wants to be best friends with benefits. Honestly I don't give a c**p what she does but she sits next to me and all day asks me if she is doing the right thing, if it makes her S****y, etc.

I have not told her that I think she's letting herself be used all the time not to mention using him for dinners, gifts, etc..

I want to tell her nicely to leave me the eff alone and that I don't exactly agree on her choices, but in a nice way- after all, I'll be working with her for a longggg time.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

It doesn't make her a w***e.  It's her choice and while it may be a bad one in your opinion (and mine as well), it's still hers.

If she honestly wants your advice, you should tell her that you think she's being used and using him.  But don't go any further than that.

You can also politely tell her that you disagree with her choices and would rather not discuss that particular part of her life, but would be happy to talk about anything else with her.

Answer 2

theres nothing wrong with that. theres nothing wrong with women being liberated either. mind you i would not want to hear about it all day either. Plus, if she was feeling okay about her choices she would not feel the need to seek validation from you all day. thats kind of inappropriate for the work place too. maybe just tell her gently"thats your choice."

me i am all for friends with benefits but i certainly don't feel the need to seek others approval.

Answer 3

don't think it makes her a w***e, but I can see where you would get sick of hearing about it, let her know that what she does in the bedroom is none of your business and you preferr to keep it that way

Answer 4

No.  In my opinion a w***e is either an actual prostitute, or someone who has a lot of one night stands, or someone who sleeps with other womens' men.

Answer 5

No she's not a w***e...women can use men for s*x too.

Answer 6

She may not be a w***e, defined as just having s*x for money, but she is definitely a s**t.  There is little you can do with these people.  I try to let them understand how I lead my life.  I would never do such things.  Maybe she'll catch on.

Answer 7

She is sleeping with one guy.. that doesn't make her a w***e.. I think rather she is using him.. she is letting him buy her gifts...and dinners... that  shows to me she is using him... she sleeps with him.. he probably has deeper feelings for her as he buys her gifts and dinners and she takes advantage.. that makes her quite cunning but not a w***e if he is the only guy she does that with... she should only sleep with him if she loves him.... that's all but a w***e.. No...

Answer 8

Not necessarily a w***e, but not very smart about this.  I can't imagine how s*x without love is protecting her heart.  She going to get hurt, or he will.  But it's their choice.

I think I'd tell her that I don't like to advise people about such things.  Everyone is different and if I gave her bad advice I'd feel terrible.  Or tell her you find the subject embarrassing, and you'd rather not have such personal conversations, especially at work.  I'm very conservative about such things, and would tell her she wouldn't like what I had to say about it.  If she kept asking, though, I'd tell her how foolish I thought she was.

Answer 9

If you are not interested in hearing these things from your co-worker it would have been wise to end these conversations a long time ago. I would simply tell her that I would like to maintain a cordial and professional work relationship and that I really do not feel like it is appropriate to discuss this anymore. She will be shocked but she will get over herself and understand her boundaries with you.