Friends with benefits:::: how does a guy sets it apart: this girl is for FWB, this girl is for dating???

Question

Is one thing exclusive of the other or can it switch?? I am curious because I am under the impression this guy (that I am actually liking) has been asking me to hang out but never did invite me on a date... That kind of offends me that he would think I would be in a FWB situation.. He knows I am a serious relationship kind of girl.. I mean , we weren't close or anything but since he is my neighbor, he knew I was in a serious monogamous 2 year relationship...

But he has confused me though because he's hinted he is ready for a serious relationship and now he says stuff that implies he has respect for me.. But he hasn't asked me out or anything.. Either he is just trying to kindly let me know he is not interested or in general all he wants is casual s*x.. Was he playing some game?? Was he just trying to get in my pants? I know he had been "seen" this girl for a few weeks, before we started talking. He 's said before that he does NOT have a girlfriend, and that's just something else.. So I am assuming that 's whay she is, FWBs..

If he liked me, he would have asked me out already, right?

Answer 1

maybe he feels that because he lives next door to you that he is unaware of how to ask you out the proper way.  he most likely figures just by asking you to hang out is the best way to get to know you better. if he told you that he wants to be in a serious relationship than he may not be looking for fwb but rather the oppisite. maybe you should ask him out on a date, if you can see yourself with him.  

Answer 2

may be he is just the kinda  man that just want it that way dont want to b tied down

Answer 3

be blunt. tell him hes giving off flirty signals and your just wondering whats up. it will corner him without being to serious and he wont have much choice but to tell you what he has been thinking. if he says he doesnt like you play it cool and just say something like "ok i was just checking''. its easier to just ask then to end up in an awkward situation. also you have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone who is ok with messing around with someone they dont care about

Answer 4

fwb is just another word for S****y wh*re

Answer 5

Almost every girl I meet I immediately put her in the FWB bin. It's up to her to show me something special as to why she should be 'dateable'.

Answer 6

it sounds like he is just trying to get in your pants... He probably just told you about the relationship thing because he still couldn't have you.. Your probably worth a bit more than just fwb situation. You should probably just move on.  

Answer 7

Let me tell you something every guy that you meet that smiles at you is trying to get in your pants, so thats nothing new. tell your friend if he wants you he is going to be serious about it and go out with  you, but no guy can keep a fwb forever, i tried, some body will get too attached, just be honest and say your not going to be that type of girl. but mabe all he is looking for is a fwb.  

Answer 8

Depends.

Without knowing this guy, it's impossible to guess what he's thinking. But I would warn you that you ARE in transition.

You're in transition from "Friend" to "Possible Relationship". That's usually a messy transition.

Typically, FWB mean just that....you're just friends. In other words, there is no serious romantic entanglements. Just friends who do something that you can't do with other guys. This is our perspective and it's not personal.

Since you're currently in the "Friend" category, if you've let him know that you're interested in him...the IMMEDIATE default position is FWB.

The reason for this is, he hasn't had time to see you as a romantic possibility. You're just a friend...who suddenly has brought potential s*x into the picture.

s*x + Friend = FWB

Now, the good news is that, if you're patent (and assuming he's interested in a relationship with you), a relationship will form and you'll have all the benefits thereof.

HOWEVER, you will completely s***w all of that up if you give him s*x before the relationship as formed.

Remember: s*x + Friend = FWB.

So you've got to keep a lid on it for awhile and let his interest in you build. In fact, this is pretty good advice no matter who you are and where the relationship is. Lets not forget, s*x is really for after total commitment.

But I digress.

Don't be offended if he puts you in the FWB category initially. It's not personal. He's not trying to offend you. Just be patent, hold off on consummation, and you've got a very good chance of arousing his interest in you as a person, rather than a pastime.

Good Luck.