Friends with benifets???

Question

i dated my ex for 5 months on and off....but now he wants us to be friends with benifets because he said he always wants to have me in his life, but i feel way to emotionaly involed to do that......he said that he wouldnt have another girl and all he wants is for us to be how we use to be just not the title? what do i do? i love him but hes not seeing the big picture......this wont end well!!!!!! what would you do?

Answer 1

He wants someone to be around, and ssex, but all without a commitment.

Is that what you want?

Answer 2

I'd say no to being F friends

Answer 3

Some people, of BOTH genders, can engage in initimacy without any emotion except that of primal passion as intense as the core of a nuclear detonation; it's all for the big 'O'......and nothing more. And others are sentimental, as well as emotional, because we hate the big empty void we feel afterwards when the whole ordeal as come to a complete end. We want the intimacy to continue even after the physical aspect of it.

Straight up, your dude wants you as nothing more as a slab of meat for the selfish pleasure of getting his rocks off. If your urges are as intense as his, it's all good. s*x should always be mutually comfortable for both genders, but if the thought of his suggestion bothers you as it obviously does, drop him.....it will only do more damage to you in the long run if you are in any way uncomfortable with it, especially if you are wanting a more serious and dedicated commitment from him, or from any other guy period.....

What do you need to do? Drop him.....don't be scared of traveling down the road of life alone if you have to; believe me when I say that there are plenty of chivalrous knights that are in a diligent search for a princess like you.....you'll be okay.....

Blessings and prosperity to you,

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Answer 4

As long as it's mutual there is nothing wrong with it, but if you're emotionally involved I'd suggest not going there yet. Maybe after you get over him, but you're better off not getting more confused with conflicting emotions

Answer 5

i think that since he agreed to not see other girls, hes just scared. having the title of boyfriend or girlfriend is a pretty big responsibility, and hes probably just threatened by that. if he stuck around for that long already then feelings must be mutual but i would say just give him time to realize what he has because once he sees that he doesn't have it, he'll miss it. i think friends with benefits is fine and since its not actually "being" in a relationship then it will make him realize that he wants one.