Friendship: Am I overreacting...? ?

Question

I called my friend on Monday afternoon and left a message asking if she wanted to go to a movie with me this week (I had two free passes). Monday night passed by... no call. Tuesday night passed by... no call. So I emailed her this afternoon about another topic. She responded to my email saying that she would call me tonight.

Around 5:30, she called... talked to me for about 3 minutes, said someone else was calling and that she would call back. It's 9:55 and I'm frankly pissed off.

Everytime she does this, she sends me an apologetic monologue about how she "has been busy" and is "sooo sorry".

I don't usually get worked up about these things, but this is like... the 5th time this has happened. I think I deserve more respect and a better excuse than "I'm busy." She could have just emailed me a quick note saying she was busy or even called for 30 seconds. I hate feeling disrespected as if someone has forgotten about me. I think I deserve more importance.

AND I always return her calls and emails promptly (within 24 hours at the latest). I'm seriously considering ending the friendship altogether.

What do you guys think?

Answer 1

No, i dont think your overreacting.  You do deserve more respect than that.  Next time you talk to her i would just say never mind, its ok.. you don't have to come if your too busy... and then see what she says.  If she says "Ok" or something uncaring and not grateful then yeah, end the friendship!  she's rude and disrespectful!  But if she says, "im so sorry, i really wanted to go"  than i think its worth it to still be her friend because at least it shows that she cares, ya know!?

Good luck though!  I hate it when people are like that!  Let us know what happens!

Answer 2

You're not overreacting, you're absolutely correct with your decision.  Unless your friend is pregnant and hormonal, has serious family/work issues, or otherwise a ascertaining matter, being "busy" is never an excuse. Sure it may happen once or twice, but after that shame on YOU for letting it happen over and over.  Start by paying less attention to this person until you have NO contact with them. And if you see them in person wherever you may be, don't use the same excuse "sorry i've been busy" be the bigger person and let them know you're simply not going to put up with ignorance and let it be.  Hope it helps...

Answer 3

It's up to you what you decide to do of course. However, I think that your expectations of her are a little off.  If you know she's going to take a long time to respond or blow you off, then don't expect her to respond promptly.  Let her contact you about doing things and going out.  When you stop calling, she'll get the message.

Answer 4

First, ask her what's up with her and why she is acting so wierd. If that doesn't help, it is up to you if you want to end the friendship or not. It sounds like either she's avoiding you and trying to hide something or trying to end the friendship herself. But talk to her first and see what's going one. You never know it maybe a situation going on that shes been keeping a secret.

Answer 5

i don't think you should end it this quickly, because you may regret it after. ask her for a real explanation. say you think it's rude, and you're disrespected. if she comes up with "i'm just busy and i'm sorry" then stop bothering with her so much. concentrate on friends who appreciate you.

Answer 6

I=I'm a woman and I say forget her but she 's not worth wasting your time on, I'm not doing anything later.