From paris toooo berlin.... (10 points best)?

Question

its not really from paris to berlin but i though i'd try and make a snappy headline anyway.

im 16. i've had my first serious boyfriend for about 1 month now. he is 19. we really like each other and i think that we are gonna be together for a while.

im going to college in september (live in) which is about 1hr away. i will be coming home friday night til sunday night.

i really dont wanna leave him. do you think it could work ? what are the chances he is going to be unfaithful (lots of girls like him near us and him and his best friend have a history. ) i really dont wana go because chances are its not gonna work.

any advice ?

Answer 1

you can't give up your life plans just for a relationship. 16's too young to stay with the guy forever, so just go on a break until you're back together. It sounds like you're the kind of person who would worry too much if you were still together but that far apart.

If it works out in the end, it was meant to. If not, it was never going to last so you're not throwin it all away by moving

Answer 2

it mite work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I see your concern. Advice is difficult because there's not really much that can be done about it. You sound like you know you must go to college. It would be silly to miss out on education for something that may or may not work and you sound smart enough to know that.

If it is the real thing, it will be hard without a doubt, but that makes it more of an achievement when you get through it and stay together. At least you got together knowing this would happen so presumebly he has accepted this you knew the challenges that would face you both.

Whether you will survive it or not is something no one can answer at this point, especially someone who knows neither of you personally. If you're both committed to each other, it is most certainly possible you will stay together. The difficulty is staying faithful. Don't just assume it will be him that could stray. You are bound to meet plenty of people at college and, however unlikely it seems to you now, things can change very quickly when you meet another guy you can connect with as well.

I can see why you would be more concerned about him though. Unfortunately us girls don't stick together very often at all and there's bound to be girls that will try their luck. Only you know him though. Is he worth the risk?

What you want to do is try not to become too attached. It's hard when the initial 'honeymoon period' will still be going strong by the time you leave but it's important you accept you are both young and chances are against you. Out of 8 couples, I know 1 that has stayed together after a year of being seperated at college. But that doesn't mean it can't work. You both just have to be willing to compromise, listen and be honest with each other. You also need to make sure you're both on the same wavelength and that you both want a committed, long-term relationship so you're in agreement to put every effort into making the relationship last.

At the end of the day, if it's meant to be it's meant to be. I know people that met when they were kids, got together then went their seperate ways to go through college and got back together years later. It's just a funny age for true love!!!

Good luck anyway, sorry there wasn't so much advice. more of a rant really! x

Answer 4

you cant live you life around a boy who have had in your life for a month. think how long you have planned to go to college!

If it is meant to be, it will be. leave this to the fates. go to college and get your life on track, for YOU! if this is supposed to work out, it will. but go to college, if you dont you will always regret it. go. good luck! :)

Answer 5

i am sure that if he loves u or has alot of feelings for u and u do the same then u shud both be fine.

u can talk every night and spend every weekend 2gether.

just make weekends special so all week he will be thinking bout what surprises u have 4 him the following wkend. good luck

Answer 6

Oh honey honey honey!!!!!

Ok this is one of those situations thats much easier said than done. In this situation you have to look to the future, you know in todays world you need an education to get a good paying job to get ahead in todays world. You don't wanna skip out and just take a job thats just above minimum wage, and alwasy feel as if your head is just above the water when bill time comes each month! No you need to take the oppotunity to go to school, and relish in all the fun things that go along, you will meet new friends, possibly even a new boyfriend, yes it will be hard but if this guys a keeper like you say then it shouldn't be that hard for you to go. It sounds to me like your afraid if you let him out of your sight he's going to cheat on you..........if this is the case and thats the kind of guy he is........then honey wouldn't you hate to skip the opportunity of going to this school, and him just cheating in the future? I hope you get things sorted out good luck!

Answer 7

ok omg i can realate 2 dis hes going 2 be unfaithful exspically if he has history dont mess up your life 4 a boy been there done that there not worth it plus most of them only want one thing 4 you...hes not worth it trust me on this please dont mess it up 4 him if he reallys loves you h**l try 2 make things work...youll be ok if its meant to be itll last trust me hepl i hepled out thanx.

Answer 8

it'll deffo work

as you said it's a serious relationship now

so you'll both be fine

it may even bring you two closer together because of missing each other

Answer 9

Personally, whether it is going to work or not all depends on the type of guy he is. If you know that he is sort of a flirt/player, then he might be unfaithful. If you know that he thinks you are the only one he finds attractive, then he'll be a patient waiter, for he probably thinks it is worth the wait.

However, no one, and no relationship is perfect. People will be tempted and patience will run low. Just make sure you allot time for him every weekend.

Your mentallity --having feelings that it won't work, and considering that he might be unfaithful-- shows that you don't fully trust your boyfriend. You've only been together for a month, so it isn't wrong to be a little bit skeptical, however, the more paranoid you get about this, more it isn't going to work out.

All you can do, is do your part your absolute best, and how him you care, as a good boyfriend, he should reciprocate.

Answer 10

It might work if its true love I think.

Answer 11

Well, you are 16 going to college, you must be pretty smart, right? You can't not go to college because of a boyfriend, thats not fair to you. If you like eachother as much as you say, you'll be able to go to college AND have a boyfriend, too.

Answer 12

I was in a long distance relationship and it worked out...we are married now. But it can be hard. You have to make sure that you guys communicate a lot and are really open with eachother. If you are worried about him cheating on you though that adds a kink in things. Although men sometimes break this habit, it is a hard one to break. Go to college and have a good time. Try to stay in touch. But if it doesn't work out it only means that there is someone better out there for you. If he cheats on you while you are dating then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship anyway regardless of what the distance is.