Frustrated TTC #2...advice

Question

Ok before I even type this I don't want to hear all the people who say be happy you have a baby (I am) and I've been trying much longer (I know it hasn't been that long).

I'm looking for ways to approach this more positively. Hubby and I have been trying to conceive #2 for 4 months. We have a 9 month old son who we conceived the first month trying (our honeymoon baby in fact). We were spoiled not having to really try for him.

I have a normally very regular cycle. It was 29 every month prior top having him and when I quit bf him at 4 months it returned to the 29 day cycle except for last month it was 25 days out of nowhere. I called the doc and they did a blood test last Tuesday that was negative. I think perhaps I also ovulated on Tuesday. I'm trying to to think about testing because its just a waste but with my son aI got a BFP 6 days before my expected period (again spoiled).

I'm worried because my mother went through menopause at 33. I am 27 and fear perimenopause could approach at any time.

And again I am so very grateful for the baby I have. He is so adorable and bright. I am a stay at home mom and he is my life!

How do you stay positive during the process. I am 7 dpo I think.

Answer 1

This may be your lucky month, you never know. I noticed when we were TTC with our children, the month I conceived was the month that I had an earlier than expected period.....

I know it is hard to not stress about getting pregnant, but the more pressure you put on it, the harder it is and the more you are crushed if it doesn't happen....

Anyways, god luck and hope to hear that you are expecting very soon! ;)

Answer 2

I have a cousin who also has a 9 month old and they are trying again too. It is also harder for them this time around. She is breast feeding though, so I don't know if that applies to you.

Her husband told her that it is a bit harder to conceive while breast feeding, so that kind of got her down in the dumps too.

I personally think, the more you put your pressure on the situation, the more it will bum you out and maybe make it harder to get preggers. I am sure you have heard that before, but I think it's the only thing that I can say.

Make the experience as fun as you did the first one. A honeymoon baby, how much more fun is that? Maybe if you can, find a baby sitter for the evening, go to your favorite dinner and come home early to a nice bath together or a little fun around the house.

I will say prayers for you! Otherwise, I think the only advice anyone could and should say is...

Relax, have fun, and don't put so much pressure on yourself! Things will work them selves out and before you know it, you'll see two lines instead one!

Take care!

PS.. I know the menopause thing is scary, but I think if you talked to your doctor about it, they can answer some of the questions and concerns you may be having. Write them down and bring them to the appt. with you.

Answer 3

You just have to have a grip on Reality and know that not everything is perfect and that your # 2 baby will come in perfect timing.

Answer 4

We are trying to #3 so I feel ya.... but I guess the best way to stay positive is remember that it will happen in time....just have to be patient... best of luck....babydust!  

Answer 5

We're trying to conceive #3 and it can be heartbreaking and an emotional rollercoaster each month when it doesn't happen.  I am on my fifth cycle of trying now and I hear it takes on average about 6 months to conceive.  We were a bit spoilt when our son came along since I got pregnant the first time we tried.  My daughter however took about 7 months.  

Don't give up hope darlin'.  I like to think that there's a little baby (I call  s/he 'twinkle' when talking to my kids) looking for a loving mom and dad and it's just a matter of time before s/he finds you.  When that happens, you'll get pregnant.  This is what helps me stay positive.  Sounds a bit silly, I know but it enables my 3 and 5 year old to talk about the process without too much detail.  Plus it makes me feel good.  Can't hurt.

On another thought, have you tried taking your basal body temperature each morning?  THis is a great technique for helping you to time intercourse or to uncover any potential problems that you may be unknowingly experiencing.  The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler is a great read and very informative.  IT helped me conceive both my kids and I'm using it again for #3.  Good luck and baby dust.