My mom is terminally ill and is now home under hospice and home health care with nurses stopping by for vists. She is getting stronger and is able to walk without the walker now but needs help with meds and changing her colostomy bag and maybe with cooking and bathing. I have a 3.4 & 10 yr old children to tend to cook for wash clothes for and make appts for... but my two sisters dont have children that are small. Each sister has a child who is grown in their late 20's. They do not have resonsibilities that I do. I have been there EVERYDAY fom the time mom went in th hospital I always spent the night with her.. I have been at moms house every evening as my time allows and my sisters both stay with mom to help take care of her . They spend the night I CANT. I have kids that go to school, need baths in the evening,have to be cooked meals and clothes washed you know all the responsibilities that come with kids. My sisters expect me to put my children on the backburner so they can hang out at the mall and get pedicures and what not. I have pulled out of my college classes to help out everyday over there for 5 hours a day running off of average 3 hours sleep a night. But that is not good enough. They dont trust nurses. I have offered friends that are willing to help come over to help out but all other sugestions are rejected. Mom being sick doesnt feel like having the 3 & 4 r old running around while I give her snge baths and chang her colostomy.. trying to keep the kids from peeking in the room and keeing an eye on them at the same time is next to impossible. Sisters dont care.
Today, I got a call from my son saying he needed picked up from school at 2:30pm... so I hurry up get the girls ready and go pick him up. Earlier about 11:00 am I had to go to my college and do a photoshute for the scholarship that I was awarded for. Even though I pulled out of school, my scholarship still stands and in order to keep it, I had to go to keep it for the SPRING semester.
3:10 pm I had to call the pediatritions office to make an appt for my 4 yr old for a physical for her school next week. THEY SCHEDULED ME FOR TOMORROW at 3:00pm. I also called the health Dept to schedule an appt for their immunizations we do them there because its 10.00 a vaccination as to 135.00 a vaccination at the pediatritions office. Both girls wil be getting 4 shots a piece.. so if you add that up now ya see why I am getting it done at the health dept.
At 4:00pm I had an appointment to meet with the director of the preschool to get my 4 yr old daughter into a spot for preschool which starts NEXT WEEK. Still following me ?.... There is a reason why I am explaining this to ya.. but youll see in a sec........ OK I was with the director for about 45 minutes doing ... I get home, its about 5pm ish NOW the kids are hungry,... I have to fix dinner keep in mind I am still severely sleep deprived from not geting ANY sleep from the night before.. yep.. literally. I am having dizzy spells as I cook dinner... after dinner my husband sugests that I lay down and take a nap until he has to go to bed which is 11pm. SO I graciously accepted and took a nap. I sooo needed that.
Before my busy afternoon started, I text my sister via computer to let her know that my day was completely full and I would not be able to make it over this evening. I also asked her if mom was awake ( I dont want to ring her phone if she is sleeping to wake her.) so that I could call her and talk to her to see how she was feeling.. Patt never gave me an answer back as to if mom was awake or anything letting me know she received the message. I waited for a message as long as I possibly could before I had to leave for the preschool visit yesterday evening.
I just woke up about 10:30 and hubby went to bed and I checked for messages on the phone and online. Patt, my sister left me a message online. This is exactly what she wrote. It is copied and pasted.
" An advanced notice wud be nice. Mom is up. U know I just don't think u are aware of the responsibility and effort it takes to run this house. You don't even care that mom is sick and I sont care what responsibilities you have, we have responsibilities ads well. I have to fly back this weekend to Portland and Karen & the nurse cant do it alone. someone needs to be here at all times and kids or no kids whatever you have going on that you are probly lying about anyway as an excuse to not be here. No nurse is good enough to care for mom the way we can. You dont even beging to realize that THIS is more important than WHATEVER you have going on. So chew on that and think about your priorities and what comes fisrt. Get it together Val, and do it quickly.
OK ... I have steam comming from my ears. But For mom I must keep calm. My sisters do NOT have children the one she has is 28 yrs old. she no longer has responsibilities with him. He tales care of himself... I mean for God's sake what do she want me to d
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