Funeral Dinner?

Question

We are having a very low-key funeral for my father. Who typically pays for the dinner before the funeral. Would I pay for everyones or would everyone pay for their own?

Answer 1

Others should be picking up the tab, you have enough to deal with expense wise.  I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

Usually the dinner is held AFTER the funeral and it's held at the person's house who died.  It is also a pot luck event -- friends, neighbors, etc. bring a dish or two.  The family could start with maybe a few sandwich platters.  

At least it is the custom for me.

But, if going to a dinner before the funeral, I think would depend on who is organizing it and it should be that everyone pay for their own.  But, be sure that everyone who attends is aware of this --

Answer 3

If your going out to eat.. then everyone pays for themselves.. If you are inviting them to your home( which most people do) then you would provide that dinner for them.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry for your loss.  

But, it is not typical to have a "dinner" for a funeral.

It is not typical to serve guests any food "before" the funeral.

Typically, refreshments are served after the service.  They are paid by the family as part of the entire service.  

If the family has guests back to the house, people can bring dishes/drinnks, but the host family still pays for anything else.  Asking people to pitch in, or pick up this and that is perfectly fine to do.  

Often a neighbour, friend, or relative will step up and organize it.  But, whether or not you have "time to deal with it" or "enough to deal with" is not really part of it.

having said that, you can really do whatever your family wants to do.  It's your family, your service, your decision.

Answer 5

they should pay for their own.  You're already dealing with the loss of your father...infact, I wouldn't doubt someone picked up the your portion of the bill for you.  I

Answer 6

Wow, I've never heard of people going to a restaurant to have dinner before a funeral.  My experience has always been that dinner was held at a church or someone's house after the funeral, and people did kind of a pot luck thing, except the family never cooks, just the other people.